Hey everyone,
First of all let me express my sympathy for anyone going through a divorce. Whether you're the husband or spouse or if you're a child suffering from your parents going through a breakup.
I recently graduated from college and the insane divorce rates have tarnished my ambition for ever wanting to get married. It's tough to ignore when I know more people that have had rocky relationships and have gone through divorce than I know of anyone who is having a happy and successful marriage. There is very little trust anymore and the second something goes wrong in a relationship, the answer is "divorce" since everyone else is doing it.
I hate to sound selfish (and I'm sure it will appear that way to anyone reading this) but since I was 16, I've worked my @ss off working two or three jobs at a time through college and I'm currently working full-time and working on a master's degree in the evenings. I can't help but think that if I would get married, that all of that hard work would be thrown down the drain if my potential wife would decide to leave me one day for something that could be completely out of my control. Maybe she met someone else where she works. Maybe she's just tired of being around the same person every single day of her life. Maybe she just wants out for no reason at all.
Am I getting ahead of myself with these crazy thoughts? Probably. Am I tarnishing the thought of having an awesome life married to some special and having a great family? Yes. But I can't help but think "what if?"
My former co-worker who's 35 and is genuinely a nice guy, woke up one morning to learn that his wife left him and now they're divorced and he lost his house and a good portion of his paycheck to her (and her lawyer). A girl I currently work with whose husband was cheating on her with someone he met at work which resulted in a divorce. My aunt, who was married to the nicest guy you could ever meet and recently told me about their divorce.
People you would never think would go through a divorce are. The trust is gone. It's not the people, it's society and the situation.
I have a ton of respect for women but for the reasons mentioned above, I will never get married.
This is what it has come to.
First of all let me express my sympathy for anyone going through a divorce. Whether you're the husband or spouse or if you're a child suffering from your parents going through a breakup.
I recently graduated from college and the insane divorce rates have tarnished my ambition for ever wanting to get married. It's tough to ignore when I know more people that have had rocky relationships and have gone through divorce than I know of anyone who is having a happy and successful marriage. There is very little trust anymore and the second something goes wrong in a relationship, the answer is "divorce" since everyone else is doing it.
I hate to sound selfish (and I'm sure it will appear that way to anyone reading this) but since I was 16, I've worked my @ss off working two or three jobs at a time through college and I'm currently working full-time and working on a master's degree in the evenings. I can't help but think that if I would get married, that all of that hard work would be thrown down the drain if my potential wife would decide to leave me one day for something that could be completely out of my control. Maybe she met someone else where she works. Maybe she's just tired of being around the same person every single day of her life. Maybe she just wants out for no reason at all.
Am I getting ahead of myself with these crazy thoughts? Probably. Am I tarnishing the thought of having an awesome life married to some special and having a great family? Yes. But I can't help but think "what if?"
My former co-worker who's 35 and is genuinely a nice guy, woke up one morning to learn that his wife left him and now they're divorced and he lost his house and a good portion of his paycheck to her (and her lawyer). A girl I currently work with whose husband was cheating on her with someone he met at work which resulted in a divorce. My aunt, who was married to the nicest guy you could ever meet and recently told me about their divorce.
People you would never think would go through a divorce are. The trust is gone. It's not the people, it's society and the situation.
I have a ton of respect for women but for the reasons mentioned above, I will never get married.
This is what it has come to.
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