Life after OCL disclosure has not been easy.
I have not texted, called or bothered the OP. I've went to court and took everybody's advice here .. "Il always respect mother" .. "she was a good mother" .. really nothing bad to say besides all of her unilateral decision making since separation.
I've done my 3 hours/week, some weeks 1 hour. I maintained my patience, asked for mediation and would just like to communicate positively for D3. Ourfamilywizard has been turned down, communication books have ben turned down .. you name it.
OCL is now involved. At first I thought it was a good thing. Great .. a report to assist in showing what ex is doing. Nope.
D3 walked by bathroom and said "that's where daddy gives me baths". That prompted a full investigation and call to CAS. After a thorough investigation from CAS and police it was concluded that nothing happened. In fact that they found OCL's questions leading.
OCL maintains her position. Now offering an interim report pending the final one stipulating a bribe of sorts: Go get sexual counseling for boundaries with children or ex gets sole. Oh yea .. anger management too.
Even after admitting to us that ex was heard arguing in tapes as well .. OCL's recommendation to her was that she continue victim counselling.
So here I am. Motion late Oct .. final report due mid Oct. I have 30 days to dispute report.
I didn't see D3 for the first 4 months that they left. Now OCL has stopped access due to this bath issue and ex continues on with her status quo. I haven't seen D3 in 2 months since my weekly 3 hour visits.
OCL spoke with about 6 of ex's collaterals and for me .. only supervisor (who OCL trashed) and my mom .. who indicated that both families had something to offer .. that shared custody would be a good idea .. etc (High road).
Ex's collaterals .. pages upon pages of nonsense. Stuff that didn't make sense.
Yet OCL still said my mother wasn't being transparent about my "bathing habits? huh? And that it was my mother who would minimize ex's role as a mother in D3's life.
I have a clean record, clean drug tests, work with children and special needs adults daily and am a damn good father.
I tell you .. the high road gets bumpy.
I have not texted, called or bothered the OP. I've went to court and took everybody's advice here .. "Il always respect mother" .. "she was a good mother" .. really nothing bad to say besides all of her unilateral decision making since separation.
I've done my 3 hours/week, some weeks 1 hour. I maintained my patience, asked for mediation and would just like to communicate positively for D3. Ourfamilywizard has been turned down, communication books have ben turned down .. you name it.
OCL is now involved. At first I thought it was a good thing. Great .. a report to assist in showing what ex is doing. Nope.
D3 walked by bathroom and said "that's where daddy gives me baths". That prompted a full investigation and call to CAS. After a thorough investigation from CAS and police it was concluded that nothing happened. In fact that they found OCL's questions leading.
OCL maintains her position. Now offering an interim report pending the final one stipulating a bribe of sorts: Go get sexual counseling for boundaries with children or ex gets sole. Oh yea .. anger management too.
Even after admitting to us that ex was heard arguing in tapes as well .. OCL's recommendation to her was that she continue victim counselling.
So here I am. Motion late Oct .. final report due mid Oct. I have 30 days to dispute report.
I didn't see D3 for the first 4 months that they left. Now OCL has stopped access due to this bath issue and ex continues on with her status quo. I haven't seen D3 in 2 months since my weekly 3 hour visits.
OCL spoke with about 6 of ex's collaterals and for me .. only supervisor (who OCL trashed) and my mom .. who indicated that both families had something to offer .. that shared custody would be a good idea .. etc (High road).
Ex's collaterals .. pages upon pages of nonsense. Stuff that didn't make sense.
Yet OCL still said my mother wasn't being transparent about my "bathing habits? huh? And that it was my mother who would minimize ex's role as a mother in D3's life.
I have a clean record, clean drug tests, work with children and special needs adults daily and am a damn good father.
I tell you .. the high road gets bumpy.
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