The STBX and I have been separated for a few years now. There have been major changes and I have been caring for the children full-time for a while now while he deals with criminal charges and addictions.
There is a case conference scheduled. We both hope to cancel if we reach an agreement through mediation. We don't agree on cs, he hasn't paid anything. The other issue is that he wants to go directly to 50/50 custody and I feels that we should gradually add days as his situation improves.
We scheduled mediation and when I received the information from the mediator it said that he was bringing his lawyer. So it will be the mediator, myself and the STBX with lawyer.
I voiced my concern to the STBX. I don't feel comfortable and it was not my perception of mediation. I suggested that if we do not come to an agreement that his lawyer withdraw from further proceedings. STBX did not agree to that at all.
Wondering if anyone else has ever been in this situation? Can it work? Am I just putting myself in a volunerable position for the lawyer to gain advantage of my emotional side/ weak spots? How would it look to the courts if I refused to go? It is a clause of our SA. I want this settled and I want mediation but I think we should be on the same playing field. Am I making more out of this than I should?
There is a case conference scheduled. We both hope to cancel if we reach an agreement through mediation. We don't agree on cs, he hasn't paid anything. The other issue is that he wants to go directly to 50/50 custody and I feels that we should gradually add days as his situation improves.
We scheduled mediation and when I received the information from the mediator it said that he was bringing his lawyer. So it will be the mediator, myself and the STBX with lawyer.
I voiced my concern to the STBX. I don't feel comfortable and it was not my perception of mediation. I suggested that if we do not come to an agreement that his lawyer withdraw from further proceedings. STBX did not agree to that at all.
Wondering if anyone else has ever been in this situation? Can it work? Am I just putting myself in a volunerable position for the lawyer to gain advantage of my emotional side/ weak spots? How would it look to the courts if I refused to go? It is a clause of our SA. I want this settled and I want mediation but I think we should be on the same playing field. Am I making more out of this than I should?
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