I am newly divorced but separated for one year. We have two kids (8 and 3) who reside with me. My ex has the children every other weekend and two nights though the week for dinner/visit.
Approximately 6 months ago I received a call from FACS that my oldest had told her teacher that my ex was being too rough with her little brother and was hitting him and slamming him on the floor when changing his diaper because he wasn't toilet training easily. FACS was involved for a few months insisting that my ex receive some anger management classes and also making it clear to him that he was not allowed to lay a hand on either child in disciplining them. Access was never changed during this time period as he was remorseful and seeking the help necessary (anger mang. classes). FACS closed the file.
Since then things have been ok until recently. My daughter says he is hitting her now. She told me three very detailed situations in which she was slapped on the leg, hit in the back of the head, and her arms squeezed so tightly she thought "they would fall off". He also yells at her until his nose touches her and he is yelling into her face. I do believe her as these are the types of things he used to do to her when we where together - a large reason for our separation. The last episode happened in a restaurant and she expressed she was embarrassed and humiliated.
I am unsure what I should do - my options as I see them: call FACS and report him, call him myself and let him know that I know and want it to stop immediately or I will get a third party involved.
I don't want to withdrawal access - the children love their father and he is a good father - just has major issues with discipline.
What is the right thing to do?
Approximately 6 months ago I received a call from FACS that my oldest had told her teacher that my ex was being too rough with her little brother and was hitting him and slamming him on the floor when changing his diaper because he wasn't toilet training easily. FACS was involved for a few months insisting that my ex receive some anger management classes and also making it clear to him that he was not allowed to lay a hand on either child in disciplining them. Access was never changed during this time period as he was remorseful and seeking the help necessary (anger mang. classes). FACS closed the file.
Since then things have been ok until recently. My daughter says he is hitting her now. She told me three very detailed situations in which she was slapped on the leg, hit in the back of the head, and her arms squeezed so tightly she thought "they would fall off". He also yells at her until his nose touches her and he is yelling into her face. I do believe her as these are the types of things he used to do to her when we where together - a large reason for our separation. The last episode happened in a restaurant and she expressed she was embarrassed and humiliated.
I am unsure what I should do - my options as I see them: call FACS and report him, call him myself and let him know that I know and want it to stop immediately or I will get a third party involved.
I don't want to withdrawal access - the children love their father and he is a good father - just has major issues with discipline.
What is the right thing to do?
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