While I am retaining a lawyer in the near future I am looking for some advice from mothers and fathers who are in similar situations.
My daughter is 6 months old and lives with the mother whom I have not had a relationship since just after the mother learned she was pregnant. Not becuase of the pregnancy, becuase of the mother.
So far we have been amicable in all our dealings and no courts or lawyers have been involved. This week she informed me that she will be filing for sole custody. I think we should have joint custody.
Pertinent information.
-She is is the primary caregiver.
-I have been very present through the preganancy and afterwads.
-I have financially meet my obligations from the beginning and will in the future without question.
-She had no career going into the pregancy and no future prospects (PT waitress)
-I have a good career and (I hope) strong future prospects in my industry.
-Her family and support system is loving and helping, but unstable.
-My family and support system are also loving, but much more stable and financially supportive (think university).
-The mother isn't trying to restrict access, she just wants sole custody.
-Most importantly I want to be involved in my daughters life as much as possible.
Is there any reason why I shouldn't fight for joint custody? Why would it be in my daughters best interests for me not to have a say in important decisions in her life?
Is joint custody the best option?
Thank you for any advice or shared experiences.
My daughter is 6 months old and lives with the mother whom I have not had a relationship since just after the mother learned she was pregnant. Not becuase of the pregnancy, becuase of the mother.
So far we have been amicable in all our dealings and no courts or lawyers have been involved. This week she informed me that she will be filing for sole custody. I think we should have joint custody.
Pertinent information.
-She is is the primary caregiver.
-I have been very present through the preganancy and afterwads.
-I have financially meet my obligations from the beginning and will in the future without question.
-She had no career going into the pregancy and no future prospects (PT waitress)
-I have a good career and (I hope) strong future prospects in my industry.
-Her family and support system is loving and helping, but unstable.
-My family and support system are also loving, but much more stable and financially supportive (think university).
-The mother isn't trying to restrict access, she just wants sole custody.
-Most importantly I want to be involved in my daughters life as much as possible.
Is there any reason why I shouldn't fight for joint custody? Why would it be in my daughters best interests for me not to have a say in important decisions in her life?
Is joint custody the best option?
Thank you for any advice or shared experiences.
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