Monkees, you are not getting a lot of sympathy from the forum because most of the people here have fought tooth and nail to see their children, to be "allowed" by their co-parent to have that role.
You replied that it is about control. I agree, it is. You are struggling to control his access to the kids, and are upset because he continues to not follow what you both agreed on. He is trying to force the issue because he feels that he has NO control. It seems to be your way or the highway. Parenting is never that rigid.
However, if you want to do something to change the situation, file a motion to vary the consent order. He is obviously not willing to negotiate on it, so that is your next step option. At that point, you can advise the courts of his inability to follow the order and mininmize the impact of the break-up on your children. You can also seek table child support amounts.
Every argument and all conflict cannot be attributed to one person alone. Perhaps he does it because he knows it bothers you. The moment it stops bothering you and upsetting you, he is more likely to cause less conflict, and only you have the power to stop that dangerous emotional circle.
You replied that it is about control. I agree, it is. You are struggling to control his access to the kids, and are upset because he continues to not follow what you both agreed on. He is trying to force the issue because he feels that he has NO control. It seems to be your way or the highway. Parenting is never that rigid.
However, if you want to do something to change the situation, file a motion to vary the consent order. He is obviously not willing to negotiate on it, so that is your next step option. At that point, you can advise the courts of his inability to follow the order and mininmize the impact of the break-up on your children. You can also seek table child support amounts.
Every argument and all conflict cannot be attributed to one person alone. Perhaps he does it because he knows it bothers you. The moment it stops bothering you and upsetting you, he is more likely to cause less conflict, and only you have the power to stop that dangerous emotional circle.
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