After three years of dealing with threats, taunts, people driving my house to intimidate, I am fed up. My ex wifes most recent partner verbally threatened me yesterday and I finally did the right thing and filed a police report. This is the second time he has done this.
The first occassion was last summer; he kept driving by my home and staring at my fiancee who was out gardening. We videotaped him, got his plate and contacted the police who made a report. Later that day I called my ex to ask her to tell him to stop driving by. Her and her partner and the kids were grocery shopping at the time and he took the phone, threatened me and invited me to come and fight. All in front of the kids.
Yesterday, my ex decided to violate our court order, the 6th time she has done so. Each time she does this she drives the kids to her partners so I won't find them (according to my son). I suggested to her that if they there I would go there with the court order in hand and ask for my kids. At that point her partner absolutely went ballistic. Screaming into the phone "I will fuck you up", "I will beat the shit out of you"....plenty more threats but I don't need to list them all. I wish I had my recorder with me but I really didn't expect that this would happen. Lesson learned.
I went to the police station and wrote a report. The officer who took the report had a seat with me in the lobby and asked about our custody arrangement....which is joint and 50/50 access. At that point she asked that I read between the lines as she couldn't tell me certain things due to confidentiality. She stated, "this man is dangerous, go to the courthouse tomorrow to file a restraining order, and if I was you, fight for custody". This woman was extremely concerned about my children being around this man. The police have also mentioned concerns about my ex in the past.
What would the courts need to see or hear to make them revamp a court ordered custody arrangement? The reaction of the officer, and the anger level of the guy and some of his tantrums I have heard about from my kids honestly has me scared for my kids.
The first occassion was last summer; he kept driving by my home and staring at my fiancee who was out gardening. We videotaped him, got his plate and contacted the police who made a report. Later that day I called my ex to ask her to tell him to stop driving by. Her and her partner and the kids were grocery shopping at the time and he took the phone, threatened me and invited me to come and fight. All in front of the kids.
Yesterday, my ex decided to violate our court order, the 6th time she has done so. Each time she does this she drives the kids to her partners so I won't find them (according to my son). I suggested to her that if they there I would go there with the court order in hand and ask for my kids. At that point her partner absolutely went ballistic. Screaming into the phone "I will fuck you up", "I will beat the shit out of you"....plenty more threats but I don't need to list them all. I wish I had my recorder with me but I really didn't expect that this would happen. Lesson learned.
I went to the police station and wrote a report. The officer who took the report had a seat with me in the lobby and asked about our custody arrangement....which is joint and 50/50 access. At that point she asked that I read between the lines as she couldn't tell me certain things due to confidentiality. She stated, "this man is dangerous, go to the courthouse tomorrow to file a restraining order, and if I was you, fight for custody". This woman was extremely concerned about my children being around this man. The police have also mentioned concerns about my ex in the past.
What would the courts need to see or hear to make them revamp a court ordered custody arrangement? The reaction of the officer, and the anger level of the guy and some of his tantrums I have heard about from my kids honestly has me scared for my kids.
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