Originally posted by Links17
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And this is why I left this forum years ago. Shouldn't have returned.
I may be bitter, but I didn't try to leave my ex (or children) high and dry. But it seems to be OK to you two for my EX to ruin me.
Your sense of entitlement appears to be the same as my ex. And I made things easier by giving her money ($200K/yr voluntary at separation, paid for new car, left med & dental in place, had money aside for kid's education, supported her new "love of her life", had kids 1/2 the time, and she knew she was getting the paid for home, AND YET, she tried to ruin me and came really close.
I clearly answered your question about my partner issue during divorce. You just can't see it.
I also made it clear that even if she had a good paying job, she could chase me for more because I was successful. the unfair bit, I mentioned about Family Law.
Just to have it all, it seems. Yet she never seemed to understand the damage she was doing to me, the kids, or the finances that fueled it all. Turned into HER, HER, HER!
I am sorry you two married the devil, turns out I married his sister. Doesn't start that way, but............
None of us would have done it, if we knew the outcome, but that shouldn't mean ruin at divorce. It shouldn't also mean money for life, for free.
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I did state that it didn't go as badly as Family Law would have allowed. I did say that the fallout work-wise was terrible.
I lost 3/4 of my income, a future fortune, and pay support in 3 figures.
Just because I retired well doesn't mean that I didn't lose big to an "overtly" entitled spouse, directly or indirectly.
People wonder why men, mostly, try to hide assets if they can. Because if they don't, they are screwed over way too much.....just saying.
I this case, she hurt the kid's the most by having a big hand in destroying what would have been millions in inheritance in the years to come. Now an capital I have have is been eaten up in support payments.Last edited by piggybanktoex; 11-25-2013, 02:25 PM.
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Originally posted by Janibel View PostBRAVO! (look at my avatar lol) this old girl has spent 27 years of her life as a stay at home traditional housewife. It was a mutual decision from the get-go and honestly, do you think that my STBX would have tolerated the situation had he not been happy about it? He would have filed for a divorce after 2-3 years had I been sitting on my a$$ watching soap-opera's?
Of course he attempted to have it stopped - nobody wants to give money to a spouse they no longer have any use for. The judge saw just reason to grant it to me and it will be indefinite.
Yes I receive SS and have never felt ashamed about it - why should I? I have invested time and energy into his career and saved him thousands with my 'housewifey' contribution. I am the one who asked for the divorce and my decision had nothing to do with wanting a 'life-time' meal ticket.
Why should I have to approach retirement with nothing but a minimum wage or welfare when the STBX's criminal actions made living with him intolerable?
Each case is different to be sure - but like it or not SS will not go away nor should it be abolished.
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Posting here is a mistake for me.
I'm ranting in my corner, and you are ranting in yours. There is no agreement to be found.
Divorce is a mess for everyone, the reasons for, the separation, and even after the divorce decree.
Good luck everyone, try not to hurt each other too much, both for your children's sake, and your own sake.
I will try to avoid this site as my divorce is settled except for the payments and the hurt. I can't change any of it by being here.
Hopefully the hurt will fade and the payments do stop in a decade and a half.
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OK. Now I got you.
You lost a FUTURE fortune.
You weren't ruined but suffered a "fall-out work wise."
If you don't hide assets you would be screwed over.
This reminds me of my ex. His own affidavits sink him.
Enjoy your retirement and your "hidden assets."
So you don't leave the forum again you poor dear, I'll let you carry on grunting and moaning with those who will likely tell you exactly what you want to here.
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