Hello, new to the site here. I am just looking for a bit of advice (like everyone else here) I hope someone who is going through the same thing can help.
I am a mom of 2 sons from 2 different relationships. My oldest son's dad and I broke up when he was 1 yr old. I got sole custody and a small amount of monthly child support based on his dad's income at the time. His dad's income has increased significantly over the last 15 years, but I have never gone back to court to get more. I am not interested in that hassle and am just not the kind of person to stir up things after all these years. I managed just fine without much financial help from him.
9 years ago I met my current common law partner with whom I have a second son.(we have lived together for 6 yrs) Our relationship is at its end, though he is refusing to accept it, and threatens me daily with taking away our son from me, and forcing me to pay support. (he pays support for his 2 kids from his first marriage and says there is no way he can help, so he would just take custody and have me pay him) He has never been our son's caregiver and I can't see this happening but I am still afraid of his threats.
My name is on the house but he put down the whole downpayment. I told him if we sold the house he could keep the downpayment and we could just split the remainder. He says I don't have any claims to the house since he makes the mortgage payment. Is this true? Does my name have to be on the deposit cheques?(I pay all daycare and food costs). I make less money than him but put my whole paycheck to household needs etc and even buy clothes, gifts etc for his other 2 kids. I do all cooking and cleaning and am the sole caregiver for our son, as well as when his kids come to visit. I feel I am an equal contributor overall.
If(when) we do split up I know I won't be able to financially support both my sons on my own. Am I entitled to ask for support for my older son as well or would I have to back to court to get more support from his dad?
If I get custody, will I be able to get any child support for my younger son? I think I read somewhere that his first kids get support first and I might not get any for our son together.
I know I have to call a lawyer, but before I do, I just want to see if anyone has experienced the same issues and wonder how they were reolved. Thanks
I am a mom of 2 sons from 2 different relationships. My oldest son's dad and I broke up when he was 1 yr old. I got sole custody and a small amount of monthly child support based on his dad's income at the time. His dad's income has increased significantly over the last 15 years, but I have never gone back to court to get more. I am not interested in that hassle and am just not the kind of person to stir up things after all these years. I managed just fine without much financial help from him.
9 years ago I met my current common law partner with whom I have a second son.(we have lived together for 6 yrs) Our relationship is at its end, though he is refusing to accept it, and threatens me daily with taking away our son from me, and forcing me to pay support. (he pays support for his 2 kids from his first marriage and says there is no way he can help, so he would just take custody and have me pay him) He has never been our son's caregiver and I can't see this happening but I am still afraid of his threats.
My name is on the house but he put down the whole downpayment. I told him if we sold the house he could keep the downpayment and we could just split the remainder. He says I don't have any claims to the house since he makes the mortgage payment. Is this true? Does my name have to be on the deposit cheques?(I pay all daycare and food costs). I make less money than him but put my whole paycheck to household needs etc and even buy clothes, gifts etc for his other 2 kids. I do all cooking and cleaning and am the sole caregiver for our son, as well as when his kids come to visit. I feel I am an equal contributor overall.
If(when) we do split up I know I won't be able to financially support both my sons on my own. Am I entitled to ask for support for my older son as well or would I have to back to court to get more support from his dad?
If I get custody, will I be able to get any child support for my younger son? I think I read somewhere that his first kids get support first and I might not get any for our son together.
I know I have to call a lawyer, but before I do, I just want to see if anyone has experienced the same issues and wonder how they were reolved. Thanks
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