My ex wife and I share our two sons 50/50 on a week on week off basis. My oldest son who is now in grade 7 came to me last year and asked for help because his mother kept slapping him in the face when she was angry with him. On one occassion he came home with a cut lip. At that time there was also a lot of fighting in the home between her and her boyfriend. One of the fights woke up my 4 year old and he claims he saw his mother and partner physically fighting. I called cas, they investigated and met with her, the kids, and then myself and my girlfriend. The cas could not give me any details of the interactions or recommendations that were made to me ex. They did assure me that I did the right thing by calling. Right after the cas was called her boyfriend hit the road, not sure why.
Fast forward to a year later. She has been dating a new guy who seemed to be a lot better with the kids until recently. The kids have complained that he is very grumpy and although not physically abusive, mentally abusive and threatening with my oldest son. His relationship with their mother has recently been on-again off-again according to my kids. My kids have reported to me that he screams and yells a lot, curses a lot when angry and recently threw one of the kids bikes across the garage breaking it. He told their mother in front of them that he would like to slap my oldest across the back of his head etc etc. At the same time as all of this is going on, my oldest is complaining that he is being hit by his mother again. The lastest incident he claims he was smacked across the face five times in a row and left with a bad headache. At that point I called his mom and she denied everything but I know that she is lying. The next time my son saw her, she berated him and called him an "asshole" and a "dummy" for telling his father. He came back to me yesterday with a cut lip that he says is from her; I am ready to call the police.
When my ex and I were married she always did have a bad temper and on a couple of occassions I had to step between her and my oldest son. Since we split, her already bad temper has gotten worse and the guys she takes up with all seem to have bad tempers too from what I am hearing.
I don't hit my kids, and I have never had to resort to violence and name calling to get my kids to listen. Why she is hitting my son is beyond me but I can't tolerate it; its only a matter of time before someone gets hurt.
I have to act today but I don't know who I should call. Everyone I talk to says something different. Any advice would be helpful. Should I take him to a youth counselling service....reason I ask is if he tells them about the abuse, a report coming from them may hold more weight than coming from an ex-husband. My son doesn't want to get his mother in trouble but I think its mainly because he is afraid of her.
Fast forward to a year later. She has been dating a new guy who seemed to be a lot better with the kids until recently. The kids have complained that he is very grumpy and although not physically abusive, mentally abusive and threatening with my oldest son. His relationship with their mother has recently been on-again off-again according to my kids. My kids have reported to me that he screams and yells a lot, curses a lot when angry and recently threw one of the kids bikes across the garage breaking it. He told their mother in front of them that he would like to slap my oldest across the back of his head etc etc. At the same time as all of this is going on, my oldest is complaining that he is being hit by his mother again. The lastest incident he claims he was smacked across the face five times in a row and left with a bad headache. At that point I called his mom and she denied everything but I know that she is lying. The next time my son saw her, she berated him and called him an "asshole" and a "dummy" for telling his father. He came back to me yesterday with a cut lip that he says is from her; I am ready to call the police.
When my ex and I were married she always did have a bad temper and on a couple of occassions I had to step between her and my oldest son. Since we split, her already bad temper has gotten worse and the guys she takes up with all seem to have bad tempers too from what I am hearing.
I don't hit my kids, and I have never had to resort to violence and name calling to get my kids to listen. Why she is hitting my son is beyond me but I can't tolerate it; its only a matter of time before someone gets hurt.
I have to act today but I don't know who I should call. Everyone I talk to says something different. Any advice would be helpful. Should I take him to a youth counselling service....reason I ask is if he tells them about the abuse, a report coming from them may hold more weight than coming from an ex-husband. My son doesn't want to get his mother in trouble but I think its mainly because he is afraid of her.
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