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Originally posted by NBDad View PostHmmmm *very* interesting....I wonder if I could pull it off. Case conference is next week, so I will look further into this. You have any decent links man? Specific to NB if possible. Found some already and will have to research .
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From what I am reading, I have to prove that her claims are without merit with such overwhelming evidence as to leave no doubt as to what direction the court would go.
They've presented no evidence other than her affidavit, and filed a normal motion rather than a motion to change. Given mine is a final divorce order, he's doing it funny.
As long as its done before the matter is set for trial I can file. I noticed that withNB as well, may have something to do with is using the federal cs tables rather than our own. It falls under rule 22, seems to be very very similar to rule 20 in Ontario.
Interesting stuff, got its own risks, but not terribly so.
Let me know if you find anything.
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Originally posted by Tayken View PostCAS is blitzing the advertising on TV with the following:
Kids say… - listening to kids can help spot abuse
As this thread contains an allegation of abuse against a child I recommend that the proper authorities and agencies become engaged to resolve this matter.
Originally posted by NBDad View PostProper process:
If the kid returns with cuts/bruises/etc that he says are from your ex, you take him to emergency/walk-in...that second.
Then you call the police and the cas after hours, in that order.
Then you get the kid to a counsellor. The doc is legally obligated by his professional governing body to report abuse, and it looks tons better coming from a neutral mandatory reporter.
I've fielded 4 separate false abuse allegations in the last year because my ex doesn't like the word no. Right way and wrong way to handle this. I've told you the right way.
If my kid showed up here with cut lip on two seperate occasions, you would do well to believe a call to 911 would be imminent.
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Originally posted by iceberg View PostCan you file a motion to have a child assesed by a therapist or counselor?
As it is well known that your child is currently under care for a major medical condition your better path would be to request of the health care provider that the medical team recommend therapy.
Also, it is common that at a major treatment centre for the medical condition you have discussed that the clinical team providing treatment has mental health staff to assist the children. I am personally perplexed why the medical staff have not already engaged the services of the on-staff mental health workers in the facility treating your child and at minimum to assist her in addressing the very challenging problem she faces with her current medical issues.
Furthermore, it is also perplexing as I don't doubt that the conflict you often expose on this public forum must be impacting the delivery of medical services to the child in question. This kind of conflict, no matter who is at fault, is not healthy for any child in my honest opinion and especially a child diagnosed with a medical condition you have described!
Again, as I have suggested in the past there are services at the medical facility treating your daughter. You are not restrained from discussing the child in question's medical condition (acute, physical and mental health) with the practitioners of medicine whom are within her circle of care.
I would recommend, as the child in question is already under treatment that you talk to the clinicians closest to her and delivering treatment and explore the opportunities available directly at the facilities.
If the practitioners of medicine and facility do not have child services in this area of medicine (mental health) that are competent in assisting in the matter you should request a referral to SickKids Hospital who do have these services.
Again, you have to gain consent from the other parent to do so but, the medical staff at the treating facility can request the consent and provide insight to the other parent as to why a recommendation for a mental health worker to become involved.
I am very concerned for the child in question's health and well being. Stress, especially when being treated for the medical condition you have disclosed, can have an incredibly negative impact on the progress of treatment.
Furthermore, more than anything, I am of the opinion that parents, either living together and/or apart when having to deal with situations in their child's life such as you have described should be required to seek therapy as well. BOTH parents and even extended family members. Parents, as much as children, need to insure that their medical needs (mental, pyshical) are being met because they are the rock for which the child depends on in situations like this. If parents are not healthy (physically, mentally) the transference of anxiety to the child can be in my honest opinion detrimental to the child.
Again, I encourage you to seek therapy for all the issues you have disclosed to this public form. Most importantly the challenges you face as a parent with a child who is undergoing therapy and treatment for a major physical medical condition. Furthermore, for the stress of the conflict that has arisen from your separation from the other parent and the impact it is having on you emotionally.
In my opinion, you are often using this website as a potential form of "cathartic therapy" which may not be in your best interests as no one on this form is a licensed practitioner of medicine and you should be consulting with proper, governed, educated and licensed professionals in this area of medicine.
Please, I implore you to seek mental health help. It can only improve your stress levels, how you deal with this stress and the relationship you have with the child in question and the other parent in your matter. The child in question deserves a healthy parent and you have every means to be that for the child in question.
Good Luck!
Tayken
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Originally posted by iceberg View PostThe staff does have a psychologist team and they do care about our kid if they notice something wrong. They mostly deal with us if he have issue with the child like how to deal with those issues. What they will not dig into is what I suspect as parental alienation. Both my ex and I agreed on that all our disagreements must be hidden from the child. IDK if she does that.
Please read:
Your Social Worker - Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
Your Social Worker - Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
Originally posted by iceberg View PostI don't seek cathartic therapy and if I did there are plenty health forums on the internet. I do however seek reassurance sometimes. Many of us do when dealing with child custody.
You should be "reassured" that if the clinicians involved with the child in question are not seeing what you see... It may because you are wearing coloured glasses.
Originally posted by iceberg View PostAnd I don't fear that she will succeed in alienating our kid, I fear for child's well being if exposed to negative talk about me. That is why I was thinking about counselor/therapist.
Originally posted by iceberg View PostAnd I myself do see a specialist who helps me with stress, ex refused long ago by saying "no strangers will tell me how to live my life"
Good Luck!
Tayken
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