Since separation, I take care of my 3 kids half (a little more than half actually), and work full time of course.
I don't agree that a stay at home parent is as hard as a job - a real job with responsibilities and bosses and time lines etc, I'm not talking about some jobs that are low effort.
When I was married, I worked full time, my spouse did not work. I helped with the house and kids equally while I was not working. I paid all the bills and services, did all maintenance and renovations on two houses, kept care of the cars, as well as helping with house cleaning etc. Most people I talk to say how good she had it, but I never thought too much about, but I also feel she didn't appreciate that she did have it good.
If all I had to do was just take care of my kids while my spouse was at work (and I worked a lot at home and helped during the day!) such as my ex did, that would have been way easier than I had it.
As for now where I still have the same 2 houses, and take care of the kids half the time, and work full time - I actually find my life easier!
For her, it is a struggle dealing with home ownership etc and she constantly complains to me about how over worked she is (hello - its called a job, like every one else, no overtime even).
In fact in her dating profile that I came across recently, she mentions how she used to be a stay at home mom walking the beach, drinking coffee and is now a busy working woman! But do I get a thanks for all that nice time on the beach? Nope
FYI, I pay spousal support, but it is a reasonable amount and fixed duration because she does not make as much as she used to, but soon will.
So I don't buy how hard a stay at home mom is - I think it is easier than a real job, combined with having kids to come home to.
I don't agree that a stay at home parent is as hard as a job - a real job with responsibilities and bosses and time lines etc, I'm not talking about some jobs that are low effort.
When I was married, I worked full time, my spouse did not work. I helped with the house and kids equally while I was not working. I paid all the bills and services, did all maintenance and renovations on two houses, kept care of the cars, as well as helping with house cleaning etc. Most people I talk to say how good she had it, but I never thought too much about, but I also feel she didn't appreciate that she did have it good.
If all I had to do was just take care of my kids while my spouse was at work (and I worked a lot at home and helped during the day!) such as my ex did, that would have been way easier than I had it.
As for now where I still have the same 2 houses, and take care of the kids half the time, and work full time - I actually find my life easier!
For her, it is a struggle dealing with home ownership etc and she constantly complains to me about how over worked she is (hello - its called a job, like every one else, no overtime even).
In fact in her dating profile that I came across recently, she mentions how she used to be a stay at home mom walking the beach, drinking coffee and is now a busy working woman! But do I get a thanks for all that nice time on the beach? Nope
FYI, I pay spousal support, but it is a reasonable amount and fixed duration because she does not make as much as she used to, but soon will.
So I don't buy how hard a stay at home mom is - I think it is easier than a real job, combined with having kids to come home to.
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