My son - almost 9 - has lately had his run ins with his mother over some disobedience and attitude...I believe that while my ex is trying to provide structure/rules for him - she has very little patience when the two butt heads. This results in yelling matches, and loss of privileges which leads to verbal lash outs by my son saying he hates living there and wants to come live with me. This subsides after a day or two...but they are becoming more frequent. Given my current work schedule - there is no way he could live full time with me. I have told him so in the past.
I am trying to be supportive of some of the rules the ex is trying to enforce.
I believe the reason my son wants to live with me is because I have more patience and am willing to take the time to discuss actions...rather than react or overreact.
Last night when I called to say my goodnights...an episode had just taken place with him venting again that he hated living there and wanted to live with dad. I asked to speak with him and I was told that my son's phone privileges were revoked and he could not talk to me. Without freaking out over the phone I ended the conversation.
My questions are two-fold:
a) I love my son and would love him to live with me - how do I address that he can't?...or can I say to him "one day"? Would that be seen as driving a wedge between he and his mother?
b) Can the ex really prevent him from talking to me? ...as 'punishment' for his behaviour towards her?
Am trying very hard to be calm about this but find this grossly unfair.
I am trying to be supportive of some of the rules the ex is trying to enforce.
I believe the reason my son wants to live with me is because I have more patience and am willing to take the time to discuss actions...rather than react or overreact.
Last night when I called to say my goodnights...an episode had just taken place with him venting again that he hated living there and wanted to live with dad. I asked to speak with him and I was told that my son's phone privileges were revoked and he could not talk to me. Without freaking out over the phone I ended the conversation.
My questions are two-fold:
a) I love my son and would love him to live with me - how do I address that he can't?...or can I say to him "one day"? Would that be seen as driving a wedge between he and his mother?
b) Can the ex really prevent him from talking to me? ...as 'punishment' for his behaviour towards her?
Am trying very hard to be calm about this but find this grossly unfair.
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