Hey guys.
Is there anything else that I can reasonably do, or expect (am I unreasonable?), in this case?
There are times, that when I pick my daughter up from her Mom's, daughter's coat and/or clothes smell like cigarette smoke. We're not talking like every pickup or anything. But it's been an on-going issue, and frequent enough, that I think it shouldn't be the case.
My daughter, mentions that Mom and her "bf" who she now lives with, smoke in the house, but only "downstairs". Apparently, the basement level of the house, has been the designated "smoking" level, and apparently kids are not allowed down there. But it seems my daughter is down there, as well as "mom's" other kids, and there are toy's downstairs too that my daughter mentions she plays with, so I can't see it being a "kid free" zone, if that's the case.
I'm just going based off comments from daughter, because Mom's responses are varied, when I have asked her why our daughter smells of cigarette smoke, at pickup:
From mom,
- she's a smoker, so the smell will transfer - she can't help that, get over it
- she only smokes outside, and my daughter was outside with her
- they keep the coats in the same closet
- it's not her house, it's her bf's, and I can't dictate what he/she can do in his own house.
I suspect it's the last one, that is the true picture here.
Am I unreasonable here? I'm not a smoker for health reasons, but I'm far from some anti-smoking nazi. I mean I grew up when parents smoked in the house. And I didn't smell like cigarettes when I was a kid. lol.
I don't care if they smoke, or whatnot. I don't even care if they are smoking outside, if the kids are around, since they are outside. But I did let Mom know that I would appreciate it, if there is no smoking in their house around our daughter, or her belongings, since it's a health thing. I figured that would be pretty clear-cut...and at the very least, I've told her, I don't want daughter reeking of cigarettes, when I go pick her up.
Aside from the health issue, it's also embarassing, if I pick my daughter up, and we go somewhere. I've had comments before, about the smell, and I guess then people assume I must be the "smoking Dad". lol.
Just thought I'd ask...it seems there won't be cooperation from Mom on this front.
I do document the times when this happens, but I'm guessing there is nothing I can really do here, if Mom doesn't see eye-to-eye on this.
Is there anything else that I can reasonably do, or expect (am I unreasonable?), in this case?
There are times, that when I pick my daughter up from her Mom's, daughter's coat and/or clothes smell like cigarette smoke. We're not talking like every pickup or anything. But it's been an on-going issue, and frequent enough, that I think it shouldn't be the case.
My daughter, mentions that Mom and her "bf" who she now lives with, smoke in the house, but only "downstairs". Apparently, the basement level of the house, has been the designated "smoking" level, and apparently kids are not allowed down there. But it seems my daughter is down there, as well as "mom's" other kids, and there are toy's downstairs too that my daughter mentions she plays with, so I can't see it being a "kid free" zone, if that's the case.
I'm just going based off comments from daughter, because Mom's responses are varied, when I have asked her why our daughter smells of cigarette smoke, at pickup:
From mom,
- she's a smoker, so the smell will transfer - she can't help that, get over it
- she only smokes outside, and my daughter was outside with her
- they keep the coats in the same closet
- it's not her house, it's her bf's, and I can't dictate what he/she can do in his own house.
I suspect it's the last one, that is the true picture here.
Am I unreasonable here? I'm not a smoker for health reasons, but I'm far from some anti-smoking nazi. I mean I grew up when parents smoked in the house. And I didn't smell like cigarettes when I was a kid. lol.
I don't care if they smoke, or whatnot. I don't even care if they are smoking outside, if the kids are around, since they are outside. But I did let Mom know that I would appreciate it, if there is no smoking in their house around our daughter, or her belongings, since it's a health thing. I figured that would be pretty clear-cut...and at the very least, I've told her, I don't want daughter reeking of cigarettes, when I go pick her up.
Aside from the health issue, it's also embarassing, if I pick my daughter up, and we go somewhere. I've had comments before, about the smell, and I guess then people assume I must be the "smoking Dad". lol.
Just thought I'd ask...it seems there won't be cooperation from Mom on this front.
I do document the times when this happens, but I'm guessing there is nothing I can really do here, if Mom doesn't see eye-to-eye on this.
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