Has anyone heard a judge make a recommendation against the OCL recommendation with none factual claims by the mother in the report?
The end result was that the judge recommended that I give up Custody of our child because the mother is making claims that I make it difficult to make decisions ( which of course are all fabrications and false).
I did not even get a chance to speak at all, I had a nice full speech prepared for the judge. I felt it was an ambush right from the get go. The judge criticised the OCL report saying that she did not understand how the Assessor would recommend Joint Custody with the claims the mother was making. I stood up and defended myself by stating that those claims are not factual and false. The judge seemed taken back and still stated "yeah but you still make it difficult and still cant make decisions. It is crucial that your child have a decision maker for emergency purposes." I stated that there was never an issue with decision making prior to these current proceedings and decisions are still being made. the claims that the mother is making are all false. ( I gave the judge the true version).
The judge then advised us to use an OnSite mediator. we did and the mother has not changed her ways at all. Refuses to compromise and mediate. The mediator put her in her place several times but she was reluctant to change or do anything. I even compromised my scheduled summer vacation in hopes that she would try something but nope.
After many hours of mediation we are now back in front of the judge. the judge pointed at me and demanded that I change my position and that the mother offer to settle was reasonable. I felt like 10 people were stomping on me. WTF I don't even think the judge read my Brief. She did however read the mothers 100 page brief because she highlighted and tabbed pages in it. I feel I was doomed from the get go. no chance at all. the mother just sat there with a smile knotting her head approving the judges recommendations.
This happened a few days ago and I still cant get over what happened?
now the mother is trying to state as facts that it is best because we cannot communicate? HELLO I HAVE THOUSANDS OF ATTEMPTS TO COMMUNICATE. WHY HAVENT YOU RESPONDED ? WHY HAVENT YOU BEEN TRANSPARENT ABOUT OUR CHILD?
Ugh extremely frustrated right now.
The end result was that the judge recommended that I give up Custody of our child because the mother is making claims that I make it difficult to make decisions ( which of course are all fabrications and false).
I did not even get a chance to speak at all, I had a nice full speech prepared for the judge. I felt it was an ambush right from the get go. The judge criticised the OCL report saying that she did not understand how the Assessor would recommend Joint Custody with the claims the mother was making. I stood up and defended myself by stating that those claims are not factual and false. The judge seemed taken back and still stated "yeah but you still make it difficult and still cant make decisions. It is crucial that your child have a decision maker for emergency purposes." I stated that there was never an issue with decision making prior to these current proceedings and decisions are still being made. the claims that the mother is making are all false. ( I gave the judge the true version).
The judge then advised us to use an OnSite mediator. we did and the mother has not changed her ways at all. Refuses to compromise and mediate. The mediator put her in her place several times but she was reluctant to change or do anything. I even compromised my scheduled summer vacation in hopes that she would try something but nope.
After many hours of mediation we are now back in front of the judge. the judge pointed at me and demanded that I change my position and that the mother offer to settle was reasonable. I felt like 10 people were stomping on me. WTF I don't even think the judge read my Brief. She did however read the mothers 100 page brief because she highlighted and tabbed pages in it. I feel I was doomed from the get go. no chance at all. the mother just sat there with a smile knotting her head approving the judges recommendations.
This happened a few days ago and I still cant get over what happened?
now the mother is trying to state as facts that it is best because we cannot communicate? HELLO I HAVE THOUSANDS OF ATTEMPTS TO COMMUNICATE. WHY HAVENT YOU RESPONDED ? WHY HAVENT YOU BEEN TRANSPARENT ABOUT OUR CHILD?
Ugh extremely frustrated right now.
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