This was hard to "lay it all out there" here goes....
So the BS assault charge was officially dropped friday afternoon. The one thing the divorce lawyer advised against earlier this week, being the signing of a peace bond, explaining this would be an implication or form of guilt on my part - that the ex actually has something to be afraid of when in reality there is substantial documentation now to substantiate the exact opposite and in fact it is I who has had much to fear from her and it has been this way for a long time. Given the history and elevation of her doing whatever it takes....... the lawyer warned that with the peacebond all she needed to do was instigate another BS assault, say by running into me in the grocery store - knocking produce on the floor falling over and begin screaming at the top of her lungs. I will be arrested and it will be 10 times the problems I have now.
So my student lawyer called yesterday following the offical resolution meeting that morning (drop the assault - sign a peace bond which again will also limit access to my kids) and I told her (the student) that I was advised by the divorce lawyer not sign the peacebond, plus now the Crisis Support Team's final determination was completed after countless papers/interviews following the arrest which validated the existance of spousal abuse and various forms of DV with the doctor now providing the supporting medical documentation they requested. This report was to establish the urgency level and appropriate supportive housing placement I require. With the actual divorce now underway there is reason for me to fear what she will do next not the other way around. Decision to approach the prosecutor a second time is justified, but the actual lawyers behind my student lawyer, said lately the local policy has been to insist on the peace bond.
Delemma #1 is now what to do if their demand stands, ultimately the decisioin is mine alone - next scheduled court appearance is this Wed. but it would mean going to trial.
Delemma #2 is i guess easiest is if the charge is dropped naturally. I was told there was nothing preventing me from returning to the house (apparantly a good cause to see her evicted). The lawyer mentioned it also could be the opportunity to remove my belongings that I have expressed concern but I imagine that would still take more than showing up. Last I suppose would be possession of the home would allow me to have stress free access to the kids, and my dog will be with me again. I would have the choice of removing my personal property to which I valued the most and the last real issues, left on purpose is: What would my kids want, Would they all just chose to stay at the house?? Final would be financial, her just withholding any ordered support to keep that house going (hear it here all the time) until it is "court ordered to sell".
So the question is what??? Perhaps this is another one of my opinion searches...... something good/bad not thought of - consequences of whatever is chosen and like the week before I "lost the better part of three days - first from over extending myself and at least the next were mostly sleeping - I needed that for sure.... still do.
So the BS assault charge was officially dropped friday afternoon. The one thing the divorce lawyer advised against earlier this week, being the signing of a peace bond, explaining this would be an implication or form of guilt on my part - that the ex actually has something to be afraid of when in reality there is substantial documentation now to substantiate the exact opposite and in fact it is I who has had much to fear from her and it has been this way for a long time. Given the history and elevation of her doing whatever it takes....... the lawyer warned that with the peacebond all she needed to do was instigate another BS assault, say by running into me in the grocery store - knocking produce on the floor falling over and begin screaming at the top of her lungs. I will be arrested and it will be 10 times the problems I have now.
So my student lawyer called yesterday following the offical resolution meeting that morning (drop the assault - sign a peace bond which again will also limit access to my kids) and I told her (the student) that I was advised by the divorce lawyer not sign the peacebond, plus now the Crisis Support Team's final determination was completed after countless papers/interviews following the arrest which validated the existance of spousal abuse and various forms of DV with the doctor now providing the supporting medical documentation they requested. This report was to establish the urgency level and appropriate supportive housing placement I require. With the actual divorce now underway there is reason for me to fear what she will do next not the other way around. Decision to approach the prosecutor a second time is justified, but the actual lawyers behind my student lawyer, said lately the local policy has been to insist on the peace bond.
Delemma #1 is now what to do if their demand stands, ultimately the decisioin is mine alone - next scheduled court appearance is this Wed. but it would mean going to trial.
Delemma #2 is i guess easiest is if the charge is dropped naturally. I was told there was nothing preventing me from returning to the house (apparantly a good cause to see her evicted). The lawyer mentioned it also could be the opportunity to remove my belongings that I have expressed concern but I imagine that would still take more than showing up. Last I suppose would be possession of the home would allow me to have stress free access to the kids, and my dog will be with me again. I would have the choice of removing my personal property to which I valued the most and the last real issues, left on purpose is: What would my kids want, Would they all just chose to stay at the house?? Final would be financial, her just withholding any ordered support to keep that house going (hear it here all the time) until it is "court ordered to sell".
So the question is what??? Perhaps this is another one of my opinion searches...... something good/bad not thought of - consequences of whatever is chosen and like the week before I "lost the better part of three days - first from over extending myself and at least the next were mostly sleeping - I needed that for sure.... still do.
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