Everyone,
Here is how I now plan to handle the scenario.
When he shows up here, on a night he is to be with his Mom, I will send him to his room (there is no TV, no Computer etc there) until I contact his Mom. This may seem obvious - but note, this will do NOTHING to discipline him. He has been 'grounded' for weeks before, with no friends, no TV, no computer etc. and he is perfectly fine with it. He will still see it as a reward compared to being at his Mom's. What does work - is talking through things, and demanding he make a card with a written apology to the other person etc. etc.
I will then email his Mom (she never answers my calls but gets email on her phone) with details of what has happened, that he is 'grounded' in his room and ask what she wants to do. It will take a good 2 hrs for her to make arrangements. I will then have a written record that I did the best I could.
Then, if it goes to court - it shows I did the right thing, but that my son clearly does not want to live at her house.
This has been my first (I think) post on this forum. I am not impressed with the feedback. I know we are all hurting, but jumping to conclusions about a scenario is the exact mistake the courts make all the time. Doing the same thing out of the family court system is not right.
Thanks and goodbye.
Here is how I now plan to handle the scenario.
When he shows up here, on a night he is to be with his Mom, I will send him to his room (there is no TV, no Computer etc there) until I contact his Mom. This may seem obvious - but note, this will do NOTHING to discipline him. He has been 'grounded' for weeks before, with no friends, no TV, no computer etc. and he is perfectly fine with it. He will still see it as a reward compared to being at his Mom's. What does work - is talking through things, and demanding he make a card with a written apology to the other person etc. etc.
I will then email his Mom (she never answers my calls but gets email on her phone) with details of what has happened, that he is 'grounded' in his room and ask what she wants to do. It will take a good 2 hrs for her to make arrangements. I will then have a written record that I did the best I could.
Then, if it goes to court - it shows I did the right thing, but that my son clearly does not want to live at her house.
This has been my first (I think) post on this forum. I am not impressed with the feedback. I know we are all hurting, but jumping to conclusions about a scenario is the exact mistake the courts make all the time. Doing the same thing out of the family court system is not right.
Thanks and goodbye.
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