Hello to all,
For many of you, Happy New Year, for me, I am feeling only "New Year."
As many of you know (if following me in the past), my ex husband put I caused psychological abuse to my children. Believe me, I did confront him about this accusation. He said it was a term his lawyer threw in the court papers, "not his term he would have used." I argued, well, you did sign it after all. I asked him to tell me about this psychological abuse; he said, well you would play HEAD GAMES with the kids sometimes i.e. if you don't get this or that done you can't go out, or I would shut off their cellphones. Yes, this is true. The fact that my teens would get really upset with the thought of losing their phones and either scream at me and run out of the house with no shoes on with phone in hand is not my fault. To me, it seems nutty that the kids would go to such extremes to keep their phones. Maybe my kids need their own therapy if loosing phones causes them that much upset.
Anyhow, I reminded him of all the text messages, emails from him/his now wife, and neighbours testimonies I had with regards to various forms of abuse he caused me over the years. I reminded him that these never became addressed through our nasty separation/divorce despite my lawyer saying she would address these issues. There was also a number of occasions of sexual assault. Years of counselling I had to undergo. I asked him, ''do you really want to go there now?" He became angry!!
Back to the reason for my post. So, I tell ex I am not happy about the garbage he threw in his court documents (psychological abuse). He says, well, my lawyer said to put the wording in. That, in addition to asking for court costs from me, would get me to agree to his demands out of court.
He has me screwed with his demands for paying his court costs should a lawyer provide him with what he is seeking (remember the teens are 13 and 16 and will likely be granted to go with daddy given their ages) and oh, you should see the good time they have been having their (constant sleepouts, allowed to take uber rides everywhere with him paying, huge expensive xmas presents I could never ever afford). Why would they want to live here with rules and structure?!! I tell ex I want his hurtful comment out from the documents submitted to the courthouse. He says, well I can't, once in they are in. I then tell him to have his lawyer write me a letter with my ex signing the letter advising that the wording/comment was not justified, was incorrect, was his lawyers words. Ex advises me he is not paying for another letter for his lawyer to write, he has already spent out so much money trying to get me to do what he wants. CONTROL FREAK! He says, you write the letter to my lawyer and if I find the wording suitable, I will then sign it and have it returned to you.
So, my question is, do you think this is enough? I am so upset about his accusation he put in the court papers as a way to manipulate me. What I am asking from you is how might you word this letter to my ex's lawyer?
Thank you so much in advance for your continued support.
For many of you, Happy New Year, for me, I am feeling only "New Year."
As many of you know (if following me in the past), my ex husband put I caused psychological abuse to my children. Believe me, I did confront him about this accusation. He said it was a term his lawyer threw in the court papers, "not his term he would have used." I argued, well, you did sign it after all. I asked him to tell me about this psychological abuse; he said, well you would play HEAD GAMES with the kids sometimes i.e. if you don't get this or that done you can't go out, or I would shut off their cellphones. Yes, this is true. The fact that my teens would get really upset with the thought of losing their phones and either scream at me and run out of the house with no shoes on with phone in hand is not my fault. To me, it seems nutty that the kids would go to such extremes to keep their phones. Maybe my kids need their own therapy if loosing phones causes them that much upset.
Anyhow, I reminded him of all the text messages, emails from him/his now wife, and neighbours testimonies I had with regards to various forms of abuse he caused me over the years. I reminded him that these never became addressed through our nasty separation/divorce despite my lawyer saying she would address these issues. There was also a number of occasions of sexual assault. Years of counselling I had to undergo. I asked him, ''do you really want to go there now?" He became angry!!
Back to the reason for my post. So, I tell ex I am not happy about the garbage he threw in his court documents (psychological abuse). He says, well, my lawyer said to put the wording in. That, in addition to asking for court costs from me, would get me to agree to his demands out of court.
He has me screwed with his demands for paying his court costs should a lawyer provide him with what he is seeking (remember the teens are 13 and 16 and will likely be granted to go with daddy given their ages) and oh, you should see the good time they have been having their (constant sleepouts, allowed to take uber rides everywhere with him paying, huge expensive xmas presents I could never ever afford). Why would they want to live here with rules and structure?!! I tell ex I want his hurtful comment out from the documents submitted to the courthouse. He says, well I can't, once in they are in. I then tell him to have his lawyer write me a letter with my ex signing the letter advising that the wording/comment was not justified, was incorrect, was his lawyers words. Ex advises me he is not paying for another letter for his lawyer to write, he has already spent out so much money trying to get me to do what he wants. CONTROL FREAK! He says, you write the letter to my lawyer and if I find the wording suitable, I will then sign it and have it returned to you.
So, my question is, do you think this is enough? I am so upset about his accusation he put in the court papers as a way to manipulate me. What I am asking from you is how might you word this letter to my ex's lawyer?
Thank you so much in advance for your continued support.
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