sorry May_May one of the things you had asked re my situation was legal aid. What they said was since i do own a home and I do have an rrsp that I am not elligable for it - if they did come in they would put a lien on the home (at your expense) and the fees would all be returned.
I did mediation - as i learned too early but I know the time would not make a difference. For our division we had started out with the who cares about the stuff - split it fair, value not important just let us both set up a new home for each of us. But where things broke down 1000% is the equalization payment - the exclusions that are detailed in the family law act.....she wants nothing to do with it, then I am told that the statements are clear for what she did all on her own accord while I was not in the position to prevent what went on. Again the family law act has provisions for these things as well - falls under the fudiciary responsability a spouse has to the other, even more so when the other is incapacitated to any degree there is the duty to not take risks, to protect the family assets and not go crazy and start gambling it all away.
The only way a mediator or even an arbitrator would work is if they were very versed in the rules for the above - and the disability/injury settlement issues. The mediator we had he did not have the knowledge to mediate our file but we were there so he had hoped to at least get us talking our sides out - she screamed for 5 mintes solid and walked out screaming. Again he had never seen this from any spouse before. She has the right to do it her way but it does not envolve, in her mind, taking........ no I won't go there - I do not know what is really in her mind.........
I did mediation - as i learned too early but I know the time would not make a difference. For our division we had started out with the who cares about the stuff - split it fair, value not important just let us both set up a new home for each of us. But where things broke down 1000% is the equalization payment - the exclusions that are detailed in the family law act.....she wants nothing to do with it, then I am told that the statements are clear for what she did all on her own accord while I was not in the position to prevent what went on. Again the family law act has provisions for these things as well - falls under the fudiciary responsability a spouse has to the other, even more so when the other is incapacitated to any degree there is the duty to not take risks, to protect the family assets and not go crazy and start gambling it all away.
The only way a mediator or even an arbitrator would work is if they were very versed in the rules for the above - and the disability/injury settlement issues. The mediator we had he did not have the knowledge to mediate our file but we were there so he had hoped to at least get us talking our sides out - she screamed for 5 mintes solid and walked out screaming. Again he had never seen this from any spouse before. She has the right to do it her way but it does not envolve, in her mind, taking........ no I won't go there - I do not know what is really in her mind.........
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