Some comforting wisdom to share with you all

[LovingFather32]

It funny... we have had 4 babies born into our family in the past year. not one of the father's stayed overnight at the hospital with them. First there wasn't a lot of room and some hospitals don't allow it. It is hardly abandonment. Stretching a little to find something!?

Stretching it A LOT to find something. Something has to be done with this system of ours to put an end to these shenanigans.

[Pursuinghappiness]

The two or three latest posts with all the supposed important detail about your ex case were completely irrelevant with regard to custody/access. Absolutely irrelevant.

You two haven't even been parents long enough for his behavior to even be considered a pattern.

Is the guy allegedly a jerk who you should divorce.....yes.

Does that mean that you have the right to deny him access to his child....ABSOLUTELY NOT.

Most of the posters on this site will tell you that their ex is a thoughtless, self-absorbed, insulting, swearing, loud jerk....that has ZERO to do with child custody/access.

If your criteria for denying fair access was the standard, there'd be a whole lot of kids walking around without both parents in their life.

I really hope that your ex gets the right to parent his child and I hope your child gets a chance to know his own father. What you are doing, in my opinion, is so incredibly inhumane.

[standing on the sidelines]

It funny... we have had 4 babies born into our family in the past year. not one of the father's stayed overnight at the hospital with them. First there wasn't a lot of room and some hospitals don't allow it. It is hardly abandonment. Stretching a little to find something!?

if the truth is stretched there then one has to wonder where else things have been embellished

[wantmyfreedom]

Maybe some of the truth is embellished. Heck we'll never know cause we were not there. I think what the OP means by abandonment is that she asked her ex to stay and help her with the baby. Her posts indicate some type of health complications. He decided to go out and party instead. He should have been there for his kid. Priorites ppl!

The deadbeat is unemployed so he had nowhere to go the next morning.

[wantmyfreedom]

Speaking of the "too much information syndrome"

Some ppl post some stupid shit

For example did we really need to know that LF32 got a blowjob from the ex on exit day?

So WHAT???

[wantmyfreedom]

Stretching it A LOT to find something. Something has to be done with this system of ours to put an end to these shenanigans.

The system is over burdened by unbalanced people who need to see a mental health specialist. Its the PEOPLE manipulating the system to support their magical thinking. Most litigants...not all.

Some litigants are just fighting for their rights. Equalization, Access, and Support to name a few.

I believe the "system" helped you see your kid again.

[LovingFather32]

Speaking of the "too much information syndrome"

Some ppl post some stupid shit

For example did we really need to know that LF32 got a blowjob from the ex on exit day?

So WHAT???

lol .. and a love poem the day before. It is important because ex and OCL said I was invisiblizing the turmoil in the relationship. Blowjobs and love letters right before the abduction blew that out of the water.

Judge didn't think it was stupid shit that's for sure. Nor did many viewers trying to piece the puzzle together.

[Serene]

I will go a step further: the system is intertwined and overlaps with societal values. Why does the system still promote mother's over father's for custody and access? Because society does to. Women need to get work as much as their male counterparts. Father's need to cease keeping them home and sweet. Until such things happen, the system will always be heavily slanted in favour of mother/child.

[wantmyfreedom]

lol .. and a love poem the day before. It is important because ex and OCL said I was invisiblizing the turmoil in the relationship. Blowjobs and love letters right before the abduction blew that out of the water.

Judge didn't think it was stupid shit that's for sure. Nor did many viewers trying to piece the puzzle together.

You're over selling your personal info. A blowjob has nothing to do with access. I highly doubt a judge entertained that bullshit for even a second. Was the judge watching you getting your rocks off?

How do we know if it even happened at all??? Doesn't it have to be proven like everything else in court?

[LovingFather32]

Again, It had to do with ex and OCL saying I invisiblized the turmoil in the relationship. Meaning.."Hey, LF32 should have seen it coming". With occurrences such as BJ's and love letters, I was getting pretty mixed signals would you say? It was relevant. But, you mind if we stop talking about it now? That was like 100 pages ago.

You don't have to believe me. lol

You'll note that Ive been consistent since my initial thread though. A select few posters even share my info with me and will be reading the canlii of the past motion. It doesn't bother me if you don't believe. I know the truth. Really all that matters.

[wantmyfreedom]

I will go a step further: the system is intertwined and overlaps with societal values. Why does the system still promote mother's over father's for custody and access? Because society does to. Women need to get work as much as their male counterparts. Father's need to cease keeping them home and sweet. Until such things happen, the system will always be heavily slanted in favour of mother/child.

I strongly disagree with you. The system promotes both parents to play equal roles in their children's lives.

Its the parents that make it hard on themselves through their own retarded decision making skills.

Stay at home parents are not a problem for society. That is exclusively between two married people who make a choice towards what is best for their families. There are many many educated women who step away from their established careers to work equally hard at home.

[wantmyfreedom]

Again, It had to do with ex and OCL saying I invisiblized the turmoil in the relationship. Meaning.."Hey, LF32 should have seen it coming". With occurrences such as BJ's and love letters, I was getting pretty mixed signals would you say? It was relevant. But, you mind if we stop talking about it now? That was like 100 pages ago.

You don't have to believe me. lol

You'll note that Ive been consistent since my initial thread though. A select few posters even share my info with me and will be reading the canlii of the past motion. It doesn't bother me if you don't believe. I know the truth. Really all that matters.

Funny thing is ..... I actually do believe that your ex is a nut job solely based on the fact that she tried to erase you out of your kid's life.

[LovingFather32]

And I probably should have left the more intimate stuff between ex and I off the forum. You're right.

[HammerDad]

Maybe some of the truth is embellished. Heck we'll never know cause we were not there. I think what the OP means by abandonment is that she asked her ex to stay and help her with the baby. Her posts indicate some type of health complications. He decided to go out and party instead. He should have been there for his kid. Priorites ppl!

We don't know what other support structure the OP had. Further, you are relying solely on the OP's version of the story, which you stated may be embellished.

The deadbeat is unemployed so he had nowhere to go the next morning.

Your biase is showing. You've labeled the OP's ex as a deadbeat solely due to their lack of employment, without any knowledge of why they may be unemployed. They may be unemployed simply because they are lazy, or they could be injured and unable to work. Or they could be recently laid-off and now looking for work. We don't know, that hasn't been provided. And to be honest, and info from the OP comes from their perspective, which like most people is never unbiased.

[Janibel]

The system is over burdened by unbalanced people who need to see a mental health specialist. Its the PEOPLE manipulating the system to support their magical thinking. Most litigants...not all.

Some litigants are just fighting for their rights. Equalization, Access, and Support to name a few.

I believe the "system" helped you see your kid again.

Absolutely, especially so in family court. Cases should first go through some kind of 'triage' to evaluate their immediate needs - be it legal, medical or social.

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