Hello just to update my trial against my Ex (represented) ended Monday !
It was a motion to vary the original order from 2013. I spent over a year preparing ,I have both dyslexia and suffer from fibromyalgia making preparation difficult.I only have grade 11 education and no computer skills beyond very basic email ,FB etc .I do not consider myself stupid though my lack of education was not by choice .I raised 2 now successful and productive members of society primarily alone ,they both have fantastic relationships with thier DAD and that's IMO what a good mother encourages no matter how horrible the marriage .I detest people who involve children ,even adult children ,it is disgusting .
I won all by myself ,my Ex lied over and over on the stand ,he is not smart enough to lie .The lawyer was called to task for an inappropriate email he sent me which I showed the Judge .He apologized grudgingly ,this man and I'm using that word loosely as I do not consider him a man threatened me at the TMC to "quit now or you will be paying me 15,000$ in costs ,because I'm going to win" ,I just said "really now because I will not loose ." Why did I win ?To tell the truth my ex could have done much worse which the Judge even tried to explain ,I did have to prove my case and my entitlement and I did .Smarmy lawyer felt compelled to hand me a pile of case law before we went in so I could "prepare" most of it was from the 80's lol ,in short order the Judge told him he might want to read more current case law .She also commented that I had done a very good job with my case law .I only used portions and made BOLD relevant statements ie: post separation income increases .I do not ever want to do this again it almost destroyed my new relationship and health ,I can not offer much advice about how to proceed or conduct your trial because I'm sure I made mistakes ,a book lent to me near the end for lawyers by McLeod ?? Was very helpful I wish I had it sooner ,it had the steps ,rules etc .Times for filing and counting days is tricky and should be learned early on so you won't miss filing on time .And be kind to the clerks they are very busy and they really do try to help as much as they can ,there are rules they have to follow ,learn thier names if like me you encounter the same ladies often but this is a good rule in general ! My ex choose to involve our dear daughter calling her at work before I had even left the court house ,she hastily left me some inappropriate texts with which I did not respond ,I instead sent her an email with the facts telling her she does not need to worry about Dad with his ample 6 figure income and no debt he will be fine ,I did not mention his lying he is her dad ,I waited until last night and finally text her about her new kitten our regular banter resumed all is forgotten about her unfortunate texts ,I am first and foremost a mother then I'm an Ex wife ,good luck to all involved in these difficult journeys and stay strong
It was a motion to vary the original order from 2013. I spent over a year preparing ,I have both dyslexia and suffer from fibromyalgia making preparation difficult.I only have grade 11 education and no computer skills beyond very basic email ,FB etc .I do not consider myself stupid though my lack of education was not by choice .I raised 2 now successful and productive members of society primarily alone ,they both have fantastic relationships with thier DAD and that's IMO what a good mother encourages no matter how horrible the marriage .I detest people who involve children ,even adult children ,it is disgusting .
I won all by myself ,my Ex lied over and over on the stand ,he is not smart enough to lie .The lawyer was called to task for an inappropriate email he sent me which I showed the Judge .He apologized grudgingly ,this man and I'm using that word loosely as I do not consider him a man threatened me at the TMC to "quit now or you will be paying me 15,000$ in costs ,because I'm going to win" ,I just said "really now because I will not loose ." Why did I win ?To tell the truth my ex could have done much worse which the Judge even tried to explain ,I did have to prove my case and my entitlement and I did .Smarmy lawyer felt compelled to hand me a pile of case law before we went in so I could "prepare" most of it was from the 80's lol ,in short order the Judge told him he might want to read more current case law .She also commented that I had done a very good job with my case law .I only used portions and made BOLD relevant statements ie: post separation income increases .I do not ever want to do this again it almost destroyed my new relationship and health ,I can not offer much advice about how to proceed or conduct your trial because I'm sure I made mistakes ,a book lent to me near the end for lawyers by McLeod ?? Was very helpful I wish I had it sooner ,it had the steps ,rules etc .Times for filing and counting days is tricky and should be learned early on so you won't miss filing on time .And be kind to the clerks they are very busy and they really do try to help as much as they can ,there are rules they have to follow ,learn thier names if like me you encounter the same ladies often but this is a good rule in general ! My ex choose to involve our dear daughter calling her at work before I had even left the court house ,she hastily left me some inappropriate texts with which I did not respond ,I instead sent her an email with the facts telling her she does not need to worry about Dad with his ample 6 figure income and no debt he will be fine ,I did not mention his lying he is her dad ,I waited until last night and finally text her about her new kitten our regular banter resumed all is forgotten about her unfortunate texts ,I am first and foremost a mother then I'm an Ex wife ,good luck to all involved in these difficult journeys and stay strong
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