I have been seperated from my sons father since June 2006 in which we mutualy seperated and I got an apt Sept 2006 with my then 10 month old son.
In May 2008 his father decied to move to Calgary, Alberta (we were and still are in Northern, Ontario) in Sept 08 I took a trip out there so our son and him could see each other again.
When the girlfriend he moved out there to be with decied to kick him out he came to stay with us for aprox 2 weeks at the end on Dec 08 and begining of Jan 09 tellnig us he was gonig ot make a life here again and be there for our son. He then met a girl and moved to Sarnia, Ontario Jan 09 once again leaving his son.
I have never denied him access to our son while he was in Northeren, Ontario where we live and even when he moved away to Calgary he was still always welcome to come visit and I even brought our son to him once in an attempt to keep him involved.
Since he has been in Sarnia Jan 09 he demads that our son visit with him for a week or 2 week and even a months time to which I have denied. As I feel that given our son is now almost 4 year old and has not had contact with his father other than a few phone calls in over a years time it is not best for him to go. That it would be best if his father came to visit him a few times and realy made an effort to call and know about him and his life before he takes him for a weekened and with time a week and up to 2 weeks time. (as far as I know thats what most juges will award a parent who has moved away)
He says its "stupid of me" and that our son will be "just fine" and that he has a right as his father to have him "when he wants" and threatened to show up and take him, tellnig me I had better be prepaired.
So of course I filed an affidavit stateing that his father was involved and took him most wekends from ruffly 1-2 years old and was somewhat involved untill he moved in May 2008 and has yet to become involved and establish a relationship once again with our son. Also that I would like sole custody as he seems to be unstable and moves frequently with no reasons pertaining to our son and that I would like him to become involved again and visit often and then be able to take our son often when not in school ect.
To which he replied with an answer form of outlandish accusations stating I could not and am not a good mother as our son's in day care and such includeing my lack of education being a huge factor in me being unable to raise and teach our son. (I have only grade 8 and yet have had our son in my primary care including all dicistion making since birth and ultimatly 10 months of age and continusly recive commplments on our sons behavior, knowlage ect.)
He has now found a way to not attend court saying i'll find out tomorrow when our court date is . My guess is that by him filing the amount of papers he did he then made the case too complicated to even begin into in hte aprox 10 mins we get with the judge in our first court date and as far as I can guess has postponed the court date to a later date.
Heres my question does he really have a chance at gaining joint custody and having our son for a month in the summer and 2 weeks asap as he is demanding and asking the court for as our son starts school Sept 2009 ?? Or is there a good chance I will get sole custody as I have been the primary caregiver since Sept 2006 and as he hasn't really been involved since May 2008 ?
Ps, Sorry for the length of this post but very gratfull to those whom answer
In May 2008 his father decied to move to Calgary, Alberta (we were and still are in Northern, Ontario) in Sept 08 I took a trip out there so our son and him could see each other again.
When the girlfriend he moved out there to be with decied to kick him out he came to stay with us for aprox 2 weeks at the end on Dec 08 and begining of Jan 09 tellnig us he was gonig ot make a life here again and be there for our son. He then met a girl and moved to Sarnia, Ontario Jan 09 once again leaving his son.
I have never denied him access to our son while he was in Northeren, Ontario where we live and even when he moved away to Calgary he was still always welcome to come visit and I even brought our son to him once in an attempt to keep him involved.
Since he has been in Sarnia Jan 09 he demads that our son visit with him for a week or 2 week and even a months time to which I have denied. As I feel that given our son is now almost 4 year old and has not had contact with his father other than a few phone calls in over a years time it is not best for him to go. That it would be best if his father came to visit him a few times and realy made an effort to call and know about him and his life before he takes him for a weekened and with time a week and up to 2 weeks time. (as far as I know thats what most juges will award a parent who has moved away)
He says its "stupid of me" and that our son will be "just fine" and that he has a right as his father to have him "when he wants" and threatened to show up and take him, tellnig me I had better be prepaired.
So of course I filed an affidavit stateing that his father was involved and took him most wekends from ruffly 1-2 years old and was somewhat involved untill he moved in May 2008 and has yet to become involved and establish a relationship once again with our son. Also that I would like sole custody as he seems to be unstable and moves frequently with no reasons pertaining to our son and that I would like him to become involved again and visit often and then be able to take our son often when not in school ect.
To which he replied with an answer form of outlandish accusations stating I could not and am not a good mother as our son's in day care and such includeing my lack of education being a huge factor in me being unable to raise and teach our son. (I have only grade 8 and yet have had our son in my primary care including all dicistion making since birth and ultimatly 10 months of age and continusly recive commplments on our sons behavior, knowlage ect.)
He has now found a way to not attend court saying i'll find out tomorrow when our court date is . My guess is that by him filing the amount of papers he did he then made the case too complicated to even begin into in hte aprox 10 mins we get with the judge in our first court date and as far as I can guess has postponed the court date to a later date.
Heres my question does he really have a chance at gaining joint custody and having our son for a month in the summer and 2 weeks asap as he is demanding and asking the court for as our son starts school Sept 2009 ?? Or is there a good chance I will get sole custody as I have been the primary caregiver since Sept 2006 and as he hasn't really been involved since May 2008 ?
Ps, Sorry for the length of this post but very gratfull to those whom answer
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