Just a little comment by a silly lawyer.
After having a motion started by my ex, and while waiting for the judgement, I asked if we could have a meeting (myself, my ex, and her lawyer) to see what we can agree to.
During conversation regarding disclosure, her lawyer was upset that I wanted the exact same exhaustive disclosure they were asking of me. The lawyers says it was 'tit for tat'.
I asked what is the difference between my ex and I that I have to the provide disclosure requested and my ex doesn't?
The lawyer said, 'You're the payor'.
That spoke volumes to me. Was it because I was a man? Was it because her lawyer didn't really understand simple family law?? I was completely thrown off by that comment!!
I pay spousal support - both of our incomes are relevant.
We both have our kids equally and pay offset CS. Both of our incomes are relevant.
We both claim self employed income. Both of our expenses are relevant.
We both have rental units. Both of us must disclose this.
How are we different? How am I the 'payor'?? How is it that it is unreasonable for me to ask for the same exhaustive disclosure that they say is reasonable for them to ask for?
Silly lawyers, and my ex still doesn't get it. It is painfully obvious that they lost the motion too, and yet my ex says 'my lawyer says we won', and is moving forward to ask for full costs. I would not have asked for costs, but now I will too.
I hate the expression 'My lawyer says', it's cost my family tens of thousands.
After having a motion started by my ex, and while waiting for the judgement, I asked if we could have a meeting (myself, my ex, and her lawyer) to see what we can agree to.
During conversation regarding disclosure, her lawyer was upset that I wanted the exact same exhaustive disclosure they were asking of me. The lawyers says it was 'tit for tat'.
I asked what is the difference between my ex and I that I have to the provide disclosure requested and my ex doesn't?
The lawyer said, 'You're the payor'.
That spoke volumes to me. Was it because I was a man? Was it because her lawyer didn't really understand simple family law?? I was completely thrown off by that comment!!
I pay spousal support - both of our incomes are relevant.
We both have our kids equally and pay offset CS. Both of our incomes are relevant.
We both claim self employed income. Both of our expenses are relevant.
We both have rental units. Both of us must disclose this.
How are we different? How am I the 'payor'?? How is it that it is unreasonable for me to ask for the same exhaustive disclosure that they say is reasonable for them to ask for?
Silly lawyers, and my ex still doesn't get it. It is painfully obvious that they lost the motion too, and yet my ex says 'my lawyer says we won', and is moving forward to ask for full costs. I would not have asked for costs, but now I will too.
I hate the expression 'My lawyer says', it's cost my family tens of thousands.
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