The Ex-wife never ceases to amaze me about how much you think you know someone... Always one thing after another:
A week ago her boyfriend was arrested for domestic violence. I have very little details about what happened, but they were arguing, one of them called the police and they arrested him. Alcohol was involved. She told me the next day and said it was over and that he was restricted from seeing her. Luckily my son was with me that night (we share 50% access).
I consulted a lawyer the very next day and he told me not to worry and that in 99% of cases the relationship ends then, not to mention he would have a restraining order (but for how long?). I had my doubts since this is the third time he was supposed to leave and never did.
Behold about a week later I hear from my son (6 year old) that the boyfriend is "around", so I confront the ex and tell her she's making a big mistake, and that I fear for my son's security (physical, of course, but mainly I'm worried about the emotional impact it would have on him.). She hasn't as yet confirmed her living arrangements (she owns her house) with me, she is simply avoiding the question. She didn't even deny when I mentioned all the warning flags that he was indeed abusive. She didn't even deny it when I said he would do it again, and probably worst. She is behaving like a typical victim of abuse from what I read.
So how do I protect my son from this? Sounds very much like she is exercising very bad judgement by being involved with this man. He has never done anything to my son, but did tell me he is afraid to tell his mom that he doesn't want boyfriend to hurt her anymore because he is afraid of boyfriend.
Can I as the father of my son get a restraining order to prevent contact between the boyfriend and my son? Is the fact that he was arrested proof enough that my child should not be exposed to this man any longer?
Or, do I have a case for full custody, given she is choosing to continue this relationship? How much proof would I need?
I do plan on seeing a lawyer again, but with the holidays and all, I'd like to get opinions in the meantime.
A week ago her boyfriend was arrested for domestic violence. I have very little details about what happened, but they were arguing, one of them called the police and they arrested him. Alcohol was involved. She told me the next day and said it was over and that he was restricted from seeing her. Luckily my son was with me that night (we share 50% access).
I consulted a lawyer the very next day and he told me not to worry and that in 99% of cases the relationship ends then, not to mention he would have a restraining order (but for how long?). I had my doubts since this is the third time he was supposed to leave and never did.
Behold about a week later I hear from my son (6 year old) that the boyfriend is "around", so I confront the ex and tell her she's making a big mistake, and that I fear for my son's security (physical, of course, but mainly I'm worried about the emotional impact it would have on him.). She hasn't as yet confirmed her living arrangements (she owns her house) with me, she is simply avoiding the question. She didn't even deny when I mentioned all the warning flags that he was indeed abusive. She didn't even deny it when I said he would do it again, and probably worst. She is behaving like a typical victim of abuse from what I read.
So how do I protect my son from this? Sounds very much like she is exercising very bad judgement by being involved with this man. He has never done anything to my son, but did tell me he is afraid to tell his mom that he doesn't want boyfriend to hurt her anymore because he is afraid of boyfriend.
Can I as the father of my son get a restraining order to prevent contact between the boyfriend and my son? Is the fact that he was arrested proof enough that my child should not be exposed to this man any longer?
Or, do I have a case for full custody, given she is choosing to continue this relationship? How much proof would I need?
I do plan on seeing a lawyer again, but with the holidays and all, I'd like to get opinions in the meantime.
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