Hi everyone,
A few questions:
I have a settled issue through mediation that my ex wants to change regarding our 18 and 21 year old. We agreed the kids were old enough to decide where they wanted to spend their time. Also we agreed we would each discuss our own plans with the kids regarding further education.
Within two years of this agreement, the oldest of the two children is finishing her last year of college. She and I opened a line of credit. When she's done, if she has any debt, I'll help her pay it off. She has very little debt and has done well.
My second child has opted to spend more time at her dads. She gets whatever she likes. Her last year of school when she should have been planning for further education, she bought a car with her dad's help, paid for a $2000 graduation trip and had driving fines $2000. She's flip flopped about what she wants to do (travel, nursing, hotel management) and has now settled on an out of town university. She isn't sure what her end goal is, she wants the "experience" of living away from home. I've told her I would set her up like her sister and she needed to save. She will have more debt and I've tried steering her away from the idea considering she has no real idea of what she wants to do. It's an expensive way to go about "finding" yourself. Her dad didn't say anything about our first child and hasn't helped her out but now wants our youngest to have our full support. He wants me to pay 1/3 of all costs. I said I would pay one third of tuition but she could go to school locally and save living expenses. But the two of them are adamant she go where she likes and I just pay for it.
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A few questions:
I have a settled issue through mediation that my ex wants to change regarding our 18 and 21 year old. We agreed the kids were old enough to decide where they wanted to spend their time. Also we agreed we would each discuss our own plans with the kids regarding further education.
Within two years of this agreement, the oldest of the two children is finishing her last year of college. She and I opened a line of credit. When she's done, if she has any debt, I'll help her pay it off. She has very little debt and has done well.
My second child has opted to spend more time at her dads. She gets whatever she likes. Her last year of school when she should have been planning for further education, she bought a car with her dad's help, paid for a $2000 graduation trip and had driving fines $2000. She's flip flopped about what she wants to do (travel, nursing, hotel management) and has now settled on an out of town university. She isn't sure what her end goal is, she wants the "experience" of living away from home. I've told her I would set her up like her sister and she needed to save. She will have more debt and I've tried steering her away from the idea considering she has no real idea of what she wants to do. It's an expensive way to go about "finding" yourself. Her dad didn't say anything about our first child and hasn't helped her out but now wants our youngest to have our full support. He wants me to pay 1/3 of all costs. I said I would pay one third of tuition but she could go to school locally and save living expenses. But the two of them are adamant she go where she likes and I just pay for it.
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