Our final divorce order is about two years old. The order wiped out any previous section 7 alleged arrears that we had been arguing about. Still now, though, there has been continuous conflict between my ex and myself regarding section 7 expenses.
I am the CS payor, and Section 7's are to be split proportionately. Section 7's not enforced through FRO.
The divorce order is, unfortunately, lacking in the specifics required to ensure both parties give proper disclosure, to enable us to do accurate calculations.
Here's the issue:
My ex has sent through requests in the past for money to pay for certain section 7 expenses. Prescription glasses, daycare, small $ extracurriculars.
She asked that I pay for 1/2 of glasses. Ex states urgency, she has no benefits at work, not enough money to pay for glasses and then get reimbursed from me. I sent an email transfer for 1/2 of amount so she could go buy them for our daughter, with a request for a copy of the receipt.
I have requested numerous times in writing for copy of the receipt, and get nothing. She accidently let out, a bit later, that she does have benefits at work. Lesson learned.
So the next time a request for section 7 money came around, I respond that prior to making further payments I need the following disclosure, at minimum:
1. Most recent T4 and notice of assessment.
2. Actual receipts for any section 7 expenses they are claiming.
3. Copy of health benefits plan from work, or letter authorizing me to have access to and speak to health benefits provider regarding coverage available to children, limits, and additional costs of having them on my ex's plan.
4. Disclosure regarding amounts the other parent is receiving for D6's disability (CP has indicated they receive special funding on intake forms I received through health care disclosure I have obtained)
I have supplied current T4 and offered to supply letter from employer stating that I don't have benefits available to me.
Without this information from my ex, it is impossible to accurately calculate section 7's. I have been burned once, and don't think it is prudent to proceed any further without this information.
Am I going too far, by refusing to pay until the disclosure is complete? Should I be paying the amounts she asks, then straightening it out on next year's amounts?
Our agreement only states that "Section 7 expenses are to be agreed to in writing, in advance", and that "the amounts are to be split proportionate to income, with proper disclosure".
I feel that my ex is creating a lot of conflict, just for the sake of it.
I have tried to make daycare payments to my ex, as she requested, for 50% of daycare fees, for which receipt was provided. Both times, they have not cashed in the email transfer. Then later on, they claim I am refusing to pay these amounts.
Our final order wiped out any Section 7 "arrears" from the past. Yet my ex keeps bringing them up, demanding I pay them. These requests seem to come as retaliation every time I try to enforce some other aspect of our divorce order.
So at the end of the day... am I out of line by refusing to pay until I receive the disclosure I am asking for? (I have received NONE of it, btw). Or am I being unreasonable, and making this conflict worse?
I am the CS payor, and Section 7's are to be split proportionately. Section 7's not enforced through FRO.
The divorce order is, unfortunately, lacking in the specifics required to ensure both parties give proper disclosure, to enable us to do accurate calculations.
Here's the issue:
My ex has sent through requests in the past for money to pay for certain section 7 expenses. Prescription glasses, daycare, small $ extracurriculars.
She asked that I pay for 1/2 of glasses. Ex states urgency, she has no benefits at work, not enough money to pay for glasses and then get reimbursed from me. I sent an email transfer for 1/2 of amount so she could go buy them for our daughter, with a request for a copy of the receipt.
I have requested numerous times in writing for copy of the receipt, and get nothing. She accidently let out, a bit later, that she does have benefits at work. Lesson learned.
So the next time a request for section 7 money came around, I respond that prior to making further payments I need the following disclosure, at minimum:
1. Most recent T4 and notice of assessment.
2. Actual receipts for any section 7 expenses they are claiming.
3. Copy of health benefits plan from work, or letter authorizing me to have access to and speak to health benefits provider regarding coverage available to children, limits, and additional costs of having them on my ex's plan.
4. Disclosure regarding amounts the other parent is receiving for D6's disability (CP has indicated they receive special funding on intake forms I received through health care disclosure I have obtained)
I have supplied current T4 and offered to supply letter from employer stating that I don't have benefits available to me.
Without this information from my ex, it is impossible to accurately calculate section 7's. I have been burned once, and don't think it is prudent to proceed any further without this information.
Am I going too far, by refusing to pay until the disclosure is complete? Should I be paying the amounts she asks, then straightening it out on next year's amounts?
Our agreement only states that "Section 7 expenses are to be agreed to in writing, in advance", and that "the amounts are to be split proportionate to income, with proper disclosure".
I feel that my ex is creating a lot of conflict, just for the sake of it.
I have tried to make daycare payments to my ex, as she requested, for 50% of daycare fees, for which receipt was provided. Both times, they have not cashed in the email transfer. Then later on, they claim I am refusing to pay these amounts.
Our final order wiped out any Section 7 "arrears" from the past. Yet my ex keeps bringing them up, demanding I pay them. These requests seem to come as retaliation every time I try to enforce some other aspect of our divorce order.
So at the end of the day... am I out of line by refusing to pay until I receive the disclosure I am asking for? (I have received NONE of it, btw). Or am I being unreasonable, and making this conflict worse?
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