I've been divorced roughly 6 1/2 years. We are the parents of two children, aged 14 and 9 years. Ex decided he'd had enough of the family life when I was expecting our second child and the "official" separation date happened just after Christmas when the youngest was just a few months old.
I was troubled by the marital breakdown (ever notice how similar marital and martial are?! ) but being ever optimistic, hoped we could manage an amicable parting of the ways.
Here it is, nearly nine years later and being amicable and putting the children's best interests first just isn't going to happen. And there's at least another nine years to navigate.
There are days when I think I just can't "take it" anymore. Being a single parent just wasn't in my life plans (I'm pretty certain many people don't plan on it either, so I'm not alone!). I'm also trying to find employment, which is a lot more difficult than I ever anticipated.
But I will survive (if the occasional panic/anxiety attacks don't -- I can't breath when they happen and yes, I've seen a dr.), and the kids will survive. It's just they aren't having the formative life I had envisioned for them. They seem to be doing okay anyway. It's better this way than if we had remained a feuding family under the same roof.
But there are times when I hope the ex and I could at least be civil to each other for the sake of the children. I can dream!
Has the antagonistic attitude between exes ever improved for some former spouses? I'd like to read some positive stories!
I was troubled by the marital breakdown (ever notice how similar marital and martial are?! ) but being ever optimistic, hoped we could manage an amicable parting of the ways.
Here it is, nearly nine years later and being amicable and putting the children's best interests first just isn't going to happen. And there's at least another nine years to navigate.
There are days when I think I just can't "take it" anymore. Being a single parent just wasn't in my life plans (I'm pretty certain many people don't plan on it either, so I'm not alone!). I'm also trying to find employment, which is a lot more difficult than I ever anticipated.
But I will survive (if the occasional panic/anxiety attacks don't -- I can't breath when they happen and yes, I've seen a dr.), and the kids will survive. It's just they aren't having the formative life I had envisioned for them. They seem to be doing okay anyway. It's better this way than if we had remained a feuding family under the same roof.
But there are times when I hope the ex and I could at least be civil to each other for the sake of the children. I can dream!
Has the antagonistic attitude between exes ever improved for some former spouses? I'd like to read some positive stories!
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