Background : 50 / 50 shared custody with 2 kids travelling back and forth between mom and dad. 1 week on 1 week off . 1 is 15 the other is 12.
Separation agreement says mom and dad will live in same neighborhood so kids have access to both parents on a regular basis . Everything goes ok for a year then under the cover of the night mom moves kids to live with boyfriend 40 minutes away . No notice, no court order , no consent .
Mom or boyfriend drives kids to school and picks then up afterwards on her weeks.
I raise a concern but do not file papers because I have learned that the courts don't help with anything but child support .
Kids now live 50 % of the time in a town that they did not grow up in , don't know the other kids and they tell me they are bored to tears there .
Kids cannot join after school activities because they have to leave as soon as school ends .
When kids live with me they get to see their friends outside of school.
They both now ask to stay at my house on extra nights .
I do not object. Mom allows it too, but I know if I ever tried to change custody arrangement or child support, listing me as more than 50 % , she would have a bird .
I would like opinions on how to handle this ?
I want my kids to be happy but this setup is no longer working for me .
My ex takes additional advantage of drop off and pick up times as well ( which doesn't help )
Separation agreement says mom and dad will live in same neighborhood so kids have access to both parents on a regular basis . Everything goes ok for a year then under the cover of the night mom moves kids to live with boyfriend 40 minutes away . No notice, no court order , no consent .
Mom or boyfriend drives kids to school and picks then up afterwards on her weeks.
I raise a concern but do not file papers because I have learned that the courts don't help with anything but child support .
Kids now live 50 % of the time in a town that they did not grow up in , don't know the other kids and they tell me they are bored to tears there .
Kids cannot join after school activities because they have to leave as soon as school ends .
When kids live with me they get to see their friends outside of school.
They both now ask to stay at my house on extra nights .
I do not object. Mom allows it too, but I know if I ever tried to change custody arrangement or child support, listing me as more than 50 % , she would have a bird .
I would like opinions on how to handle this ?
I want my kids to be happy but this setup is no longer working for me .
My ex takes additional advantage of drop off and pick up times as well ( which doesn't help )
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