I thought I would start a thread to learn about what everyone believes would be fair in a custody dispute.
a) Some believe that if shared parenting were mandatory there would be no more custody battles.
b) Some people believe that shared parenting doesn't exist in most marriages so it's hypocritical to want shared parenting when a divorce occurs.
c) Some people believe that mediation should be mandatory in custody disputes.
d) Some people believe family violence occurs in the majority of custody disputes therefore mediation and shared parenting shouldn't be mandatory.
e) Some people believe that access denial isn't real.
f) Some people believe that the real problem is fathers who don't exercise access to their kids.
g) Some people believe fathers want shared parenting to get out of child support.
h) Some people believe that mothers oppose shared parenting so they can collect child support.
i) Some people believe that lawyers are the reason for divorce conflict.
j) Some people believe that you can't legislate human behavior so it would be unwise to tinker with custody/access laws.
I could go on...
So, this begs some questions:
If my points are what occur every day in the family law system - what is fair and how do you make that determination? What is in the best interests of the children? How can you take two parents who dislike and do not trust each other and get them to cooperate? Can this be done by legislation? Is the argument that mandatory shared parenting will eliminate all the problems? Should we continue with the existing system? Are our communities doing enough to support people?
I am bringing these questions up because if a perfect system were ever to exist, there has to be agreement on what it looks like. So what does it look like to you?
a) Some believe that if shared parenting were mandatory there would be no more custody battles.
b) Some people believe that shared parenting doesn't exist in most marriages so it's hypocritical to want shared parenting when a divorce occurs.
c) Some people believe that mediation should be mandatory in custody disputes.
d) Some people believe family violence occurs in the majority of custody disputes therefore mediation and shared parenting shouldn't be mandatory.
e) Some people believe that access denial isn't real.
f) Some people believe that the real problem is fathers who don't exercise access to their kids.
g) Some people believe fathers want shared parenting to get out of child support.
h) Some people believe that mothers oppose shared parenting so they can collect child support.
i) Some people believe that lawyers are the reason for divorce conflict.
j) Some people believe that you can't legislate human behavior so it would be unwise to tinker with custody/access laws.
I could go on...
So, this begs some questions:
If my points are what occur every day in the family law system - what is fair and how do you make that determination? What is in the best interests of the children? How can you take two parents who dislike and do not trust each other and get them to cooperate? Can this be done by legislation? Is the argument that mandatory shared parenting will eliminate all the problems? Should we continue with the existing system? Are our communities doing enough to support people?
I am bringing these questions up because if a perfect system were ever to exist, there has to be agreement on what it looks like. So what does it look like to you?
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