Basically here are the facts:
1. I have been with this man for 6 years.
2. I had my own house, I have 3 children at the time ages 4,6,&8
3. We purchased a house just over 4 years ago, (99% in my name and 1% in his) This was due to the fact that I had the full down payment for the house. He came with no household items (only a motorcycle with a loan) in his name. I had all appliances, furniture etc. etc. He does have a good paying job which gave the ability to get the mortgage that we did.
4. We married in Oct. 2006 (4 months after the purchase of this house)
5. He has been a total father basically to my children. One even calls him dad regularly. They have used his last name .. hyphenated whenever possible. I have sole custody of the children so they are with us full time aside from every other weekend.
6. He is now looking at a possible divorce, doesn't feel that he wants to spend the rest of his life being a dad (family man).
What are my options legally? My children are devasted. They are now 10,12 &14.
We are screwed financially. (yes I do get some finacial support from their bio dad but not near enough to cover the expenses) I had a house and now for me to be able to purchase another one the market has gone too high. I want to stay in the house that I am in because looking at it, by the time we pay realitors etc. it makes no sense to move.
I also have a lot of support by neighbours, emotionally, etc. The problem is that I may not qualify for that high of a mortgage on my own now. Is a stepfather able to just walk away like nothing happened?
My emotions are all over the place. I need to figure things out money, house wise first because I have children that I need to raise. They have to be my #1 priority and my broken heart will have to wait. (make sense??)
Please, any advice would be wonderful. I don't know where to begin and I don't have thousands of dollars to spend on a lawyer.
1. I have been with this man for 6 years.
2. I had my own house, I have 3 children at the time ages 4,6,&8
3. We purchased a house just over 4 years ago, (99% in my name and 1% in his) This was due to the fact that I had the full down payment for the house. He came with no household items (only a motorcycle with a loan) in his name. I had all appliances, furniture etc. etc. He does have a good paying job which gave the ability to get the mortgage that we did.
4. We married in Oct. 2006 (4 months after the purchase of this house)
5. He has been a total father basically to my children. One even calls him dad regularly. They have used his last name .. hyphenated whenever possible. I have sole custody of the children so they are with us full time aside from every other weekend.
6. He is now looking at a possible divorce, doesn't feel that he wants to spend the rest of his life being a dad (family man).
What are my options legally? My children are devasted. They are now 10,12 &14.
We are screwed financially. (yes I do get some finacial support from their bio dad but not near enough to cover the expenses) I had a house and now for me to be able to purchase another one the market has gone too high. I want to stay in the house that I am in because looking at it, by the time we pay realitors etc. it makes no sense to move.
I also have a lot of support by neighbours, emotionally, etc. The problem is that I may not qualify for that high of a mortgage on my own now. Is a stepfather able to just walk away like nothing happened?
My emotions are all over the place. I need to figure things out money, house wise first because I have children that I need to raise. They have to be my #1 priority and my broken heart will have to wait. (make sense??)
Please, any advice would be wonderful. I don't know where to begin and I don't have thousands of dollars to spend on a lawyer.
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