Divorce Can Make You Nuts
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There's law and there's life - that's a motto we teach our clients in our divorce education workshops. The law is blunt instrument - akin to splitting a human hair with an axe - you ain't gonna find a perfect solution when the two people mired in a custody battle (or any divorce related conflict) are less than perfect.
Nobody in a dispute comes to the table with clean hands in spite of how individuals feel about their particular conflict. We bring our own demons to a conflict, we would rather cut the problem out - like a cancer, than work the problem. But what if both parties are a source of conflict? How does one determine who is right and who is wrong - and to what end?
Quite frankly, we talk a good talk about "the best interests of the children". Everyone assumes they are right because of their experience during divorce as opposed to simply viewing the divorce conflict through the eyes of their own children.
Rebuilding is hard work. Parenting children in a functional marriage is hard work that takes huge sacrifices... when divorce happens, the only thing that has changed is the structure of the family - the same hard work remains - only the dynamics of the parents relationship with each other has changed.
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There's law and there's life - that's a motto we teach our clients in our divorce education workshops. The law is blunt instrument - akin to splitting a human hair with an axe - you ain't gonna find a perfect solution when the two people mired in a custody battle (or any divorce related conflict) are less than perfect.
Nobody in a dispute comes to the table with clean hands in spite of how individuals feel about their particular conflict. We bring our own demons to a conflict, we would rather cut the problem out - like a cancer, than work the problem. But what if both parties are a source of conflict? How does one determine who is right and who is wrong - and to what end?
Quite frankly, we talk a good talk about "the best interests of the children". Everyone assumes they are right because of their experience during divorce as opposed to simply viewing the divorce conflict through the eyes of their own children.
Rebuilding is hard work. Parenting children in a functional marriage is hard work that takes huge sacrifices... when divorce happens, the only thing that has changed is the structure of the family - the same hard work remains - only the dynamics of the parents relationship with each other has changed.
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