I've been questioning lately whether my wife REALLY wants a divorce and guess what?
The GOOD Lord provided me an answer today via a post on another board that I would like to share with you all ...
"Most of you don't know, but I was married once before. I was 18 and he was 31 when we dated and then later married. I had two kids with him. Somewhere at just over 3 years of marriage, something didn't feel right. I can't tell you exactly what it was, other than that it was a multitude of things. I knew that this "feeling" was telling me that I needed to get out of the relationship. On the surface things were ok, he was active duty military, he brought home a paycheck, he was soft of attentive, he came home to me every night. Something just wasn't right.
I decided that I wanted a divorce. I can honestly say once I made my decision and told him, I never looked back. I didn't stay in the same house with him, I didn't call him. I didn't email him. I didn't buy him gifts or "test" him. Oh he begged and pleaded for me to come back. I took our kids and moved out of our apartment, across the water to Seattle where jobs were more plentiful and lived in a dingy little beat up apartment for months. I had the option to go back and live in a comfortable apartment and let him bring in the paycheck, but I was so sure of what I wanted that it never even crossed my mind to go back.
That, my friends, is how a person acts when they want a divorce and are sure of it. At least 90% of you on here have a spouse that emails, calls, checks up on you, gives a hug here and there.....those aren't the actions of someone who is set on a divorce. Those are the actions of someone who is not sure what they want. Someone is torn between wanting a marriage to work and not believing that changes are real. If someone wants a divorce and just doesn't care anymore, then they don't bother doing those things.
So remember, when things are bleak and when your heart is breaking, just REMEMBER that. This is your opportunity, painful as it is, to show your spouse that you ARE changed. They are watching and they are listening and they are not exhibiting the signs of someone who wants a divorce. "
He is just SO amazing!
Hubby
The GOOD Lord provided me an answer today via a post on another board that I would like to share with you all ...
"Most of you don't know, but I was married once before. I was 18 and he was 31 when we dated and then later married. I had two kids with him. Somewhere at just over 3 years of marriage, something didn't feel right. I can't tell you exactly what it was, other than that it was a multitude of things. I knew that this "feeling" was telling me that I needed to get out of the relationship. On the surface things were ok, he was active duty military, he brought home a paycheck, he was soft of attentive, he came home to me every night. Something just wasn't right.
I decided that I wanted a divorce. I can honestly say once I made my decision and told him, I never looked back. I didn't stay in the same house with him, I didn't call him. I didn't email him. I didn't buy him gifts or "test" him. Oh he begged and pleaded for me to come back. I took our kids and moved out of our apartment, across the water to Seattle where jobs were more plentiful and lived in a dingy little beat up apartment for months. I had the option to go back and live in a comfortable apartment and let him bring in the paycheck, but I was so sure of what I wanted that it never even crossed my mind to go back.
That, my friends, is how a person acts when they want a divorce and are sure of it. At least 90% of you on here have a spouse that emails, calls, checks up on you, gives a hug here and there.....those aren't the actions of someone who is set on a divorce. Those are the actions of someone who is not sure what they want. Someone is torn between wanting a marriage to work and not believing that changes are real. If someone wants a divorce and just doesn't care anymore, then they don't bother doing those things.
So remember, when things are bleak and when your heart is breaking, just REMEMBER that. This is your opportunity, painful as it is, to show your spouse that you ARE changed. They are watching and they are listening and they are not exhibiting the signs of someone who wants a divorce. "
He is just SO amazing!
Hubby
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