So, if anyone has read my posts you'll see that I'm dealing with an ex who has not bothered with daughter since June. Daughter has had two or three convos on phone with father, but father insists daughter "apologize" before she is "allowed" to see him again. Yes, father of the year award over there please! (sarcasm - it makes being angry tolerable LOL)
Well, my bday was on the weekend and my new hubby, daughter and I decided to go to a local chain restaurant to celebrate. As we're being seated I see ex and family out of the corner of my eye....I ignore them.
Ex is with wife, other daughter (but not wife's daughter - there's another mom is this scenario). Other daughter is 2.5 years. Ex had access with both daughters on the same weekends, so essentially, my daughter should be sitting over at that table with them this weekend. Wife walks past with other daughter - ignores us. Confusion on little girl's face, but okay. Next thing I know, ex is speaking to our daughter. My girl starts bawling....many reasons. Hasn't seen dad since June. Dad has other daughter and not her. Dad never took our daughter out for dinner, ever. I asked them to leave politely, a few words flung my way, but eventually they left.
Email from other mom asking about "the scene"....apparently I caused one - did not happen. Other mom is well versed in dad's ways - knows he's lying through his teeth.
My girl - very upset. In past I've been accused and taken to court for "parental alienation". Last time, 2 years in court, two weeks later he's defaulted on every agreement he made with regards to access (which btw - were objected to by me in the first place, but I reluctantly agreed in the end). The access he asked and agreed to, I knew he wouldn't follow through on. Picking her up from school, taking to school....these are just things he will not do with any consistency. A couple of times to make it all "look good", but the reality is he can't get the required time off work to accomplish what he said he would.
I've been doing a lot of reading on alienation, estrangment, etc. I'm of the opinion that HE is creating the estrangement in this situation. I've told my girl she can apologize so she can see her dad (the girl has NO IDEA what she is apologizing for), or she can choose not to apologize and I'll support that (which I do because a couple of years ago it was me being forced to apologize for unknown things).
Opinion? Comment? Like I said, I'm venting here cause I'm angry, but the opinions of others on this site has been very welcome.
I plan to return to court in the new year with a motion for change in custody, access, s.7 supports, etc. Ex is actually in court on Monday for other mom - he's dragged her in accusing her of parental alienation for requesting a change in a few access dates due to dire personal situations (her mother died suddenly, she was dx with cancer, had surgery, had rounds of chemo and radiation, etc, etc). I've been asked to attend court by her lawyer. Bad idea, good idea?? Anyone??
Well, my bday was on the weekend and my new hubby, daughter and I decided to go to a local chain restaurant to celebrate. As we're being seated I see ex and family out of the corner of my eye....I ignore them.
Ex is with wife, other daughter (but not wife's daughter - there's another mom is this scenario). Other daughter is 2.5 years. Ex had access with both daughters on the same weekends, so essentially, my daughter should be sitting over at that table with them this weekend. Wife walks past with other daughter - ignores us. Confusion on little girl's face, but okay. Next thing I know, ex is speaking to our daughter. My girl starts bawling....many reasons. Hasn't seen dad since June. Dad has other daughter and not her. Dad never took our daughter out for dinner, ever. I asked them to leave politely, a few words flung my way, but eventually they left.
Email from other mom asking about "the scene"....apparently I caused one - did not happen. Other mom is well versed in dad's ways - knows he's lying through his teeth.
My girl - very upset. In past I've been accused and taken to court for "parental alienation". Last time, 2 years in court, two weeks later he's defaulted on every agreement he made with regards to access (which btw - were objected to by me in the first place, but I reluctantly agreed in the end). The access he asked and agreed to, I knew he wouldn't follow through on. Picking her up from school, taking to school....these are just things he will not do with any consistency. A couple of times to make it all "look good", but the reality is he can't get the required time off work to accomplish what he said he would.
I've been doing a lot of reading on alienation, estrangment, etc. I'm of the opinion that HE is creating the estrangement in this situation. I've told my girl she can apologize so she can see her dad (the girl has NO IDEA what she is apologizing for), or she can choose not to apologize and I'll support that (which I do because a couple of years ago it was me being forced to apologize for unknown things).
Opinion? Comment? Like I said, I'm venting here cause I'm angry, but the opinions of others on this site has been very welcome.
I plan to return to court in the new year with a motion for change in custody, access, s.7 supports, etc. Ex is actually in court on Monday for other mom - he's dragged her in accusing her of parental alienation for requesting a change in a few access dates due to dire personal situations (her mother died suddenly, she was dx with cancer, had surgery, had rounds of chemo and radiation, etc, etc). I've been asked to attend court by her lawyer. Bad idea, good idea?? Anyone??
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