Just venting.
Unemployed Mom, who can't afford to contribute towards D8's uniform for weekly child activity (the activity she insisted D8 be in), and insert all the other usual "woe is me, you don't give me enough Support, you owe me blah blah blah" reasons here...happily goes away on vacation to the Carribbean for a week and a bit, for a "her" vacation. No kids. Pretty sure I know where the child support is going, a month before Christmas. Ok, whatever.
Of course, I was told about this at the last minute (no chance for me to look into taking time off work to care for D8 during extra time) - she already had lined up a family member to look after the kids during "her time". Fine. It's "her" time. I think I met this extended family member once, before?
Picking up D8, I find out that "family member" has been left instructions by Mom, about what is *not* to go to Dad's house, with D8. The usual issues...Homework, school planner, etc. Never mind that latest report card, and those "homework continues to be an issue" comments. All the stuff that Mom likes to play Gatekeeper with. I barely know this family member, and they don't know me, so obviously, I'm not going to make it an issue with them, but how ridiculous is that? "Mom says she can't bring that stuff".
Mom to family-member: "Here is my emergency contact info, and my Gatekeeping instructions, while I'm away". (oh yeah, Mom didn't provide any kind of emerg contact info to me either, as apparently, I'm supposed to rely on the family member I barely know, in case something comes up).
I've already sent the "document this" email, to Mom. Think I may follow-up with registered mail as well, when she gets back (in case she doesn't respond to email), as it just seems like an extra degree of stupid to request that other people continue Gatekeeping for you, while you are out of the country.
Unemployed Mom, who can't afford to contribute towards D8's uniform for weekly child activity (the activity she insisted D8 be in), and insert all the other usual "woe is me, you don't give me enough Support, you owe me blah blah blah" reasons here...happily goes away on vacation to the Carribbean for a week and a bit, for a "her" vacation. No kids. Pretty sure I know where the child support is going, a month before Christmas. Ok, whatever.
Of course, I was told about this at the last minute (no chance for me to look into taking time off work to care for D8 during extra time) - she already had lined up a family member to look after the kids during "her time". Fine. It's "her" time. I think I met this extended family member once, before?
Picking up D8, I find out that "family member" has been left instructions by Mom, about what is *not* to go to Dad's house, with D8. The usual issues...Homework, school planner, etc. Never mind that latest report card, and those "homework continues to be an issue" comments. All the stuff that Mom likes to play Gatekeeper with. I barely know this family member, and they don't know me, so obviously, I'm not going to make it an issue with them, but how ridiculous is that? "Mom says she can't bring that stuff".
Mom to family-member: "Here is my emergency contact info, and my Gatekeeping instructions, while I'm away". (oh yeah, Mom didn't provide any kind of emerg contact info to me either, as apparently, I'm supposed to rely on the family member I barely know, in case something comes up).
I've already sent the "document this" email, to Mom. Think I may follow-up with registered mail as well, when she gets back (in case she doesn't respond to email), as it just seems like an extra degree of stupid to request that other people continue Gatekeeping for you, while you are out of the country.
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