Hi All,
I have a question about March break, and whats 'normal'/acceptable. I live about an hour away from my ex. My children are 5, 4, 3, and becoming programmed by the ex.
My normal schedule is every other weekend at this point, with reasonable and liberal tacked on. (separate issue)
That means that most of my requests for extra time are denied/altered/screwed around - and thats fine (for now), i document document document.
After 3 weeks of being ignored about wanting to discuss march break holidays for our children, she finally replied without even asking or discussing that I could have them Wednesday morn until Thurs night.
I replied that her 'offer' that in light of her recent (end of feb) 2 week vacation to Florida with them leaving me with no access during that time, that it would be good for the kids to spend an extended time with me, from Friday night (normal pickup time, normal weekend schedule), but instead of returning them Sun night, I would return them Wed night.
To this she just replied NO, but offered an extra day, to pick them up twednesday morning and return them Friday night.
I know from her behaviour that she doesn't (once over xmas she was forced by lawyers to let them spend 3 nights) want them spend more than 2 nights in a row with me, even though the children have no issues with this, as this would set a 'precident' in her eyes with the court, and weaken what she sees as a future custody argument.
She already frustrates my telephone acccess, medical record access, etc., so this is nothing new.
The reason I want extended access (a whopping 5 days) is that the children seem to just get used to being here, and then off they go back to their mothers for 2 weeks. I feel that this would allow good bonding time for the children, and be to their benefit which I state, and that it would be best if they were not trucked back and forth every 2 days over the holiday, but she ignores this with a simple 'no' even though she offers the same time, just never in a row, and gives me no explination - logical or otherwise.
Am I being reasonable, and if so can anything be done, or at the VERY least better documented for future use?
Thanks!
I have a question about March break, and whats 'normal'/acceptable. I live about an hour away from my ex. My children are 5, 4, 3, and becoming programmed by the ex.
My normal schedule is every other weekend at this point, with reasonable and liberal tacked on. (separate issue)
That means that most of my requests for extra time are denied/altered/screwed around - and thats fine (for now), i document document document.
After 3 weeks of being ignored about wanting to discuss march break holidays for our children, she finally replied without even asking or discussing that I could have them Wednesday morn until Thurs night.
I replied that her 'offer' that in light of her recent (end of feb) 2 week vacation to Florida with them leaving me with no access during that time, that it would be good for the kids to spend an extended time with me, from Friday night (normal pickup time, normal weekend schedule), but instead of returning them Sun night, I would return them Wed night.
To this she just replied NO, but offered an extra day, to pick them up twednesday morning and return them Friday night.
I know from her behaviour that she doesn't (once over xmas she was forced by lawyers to let them spend 3 nights) want them spend more than 2 nights in a row with me, even though the children have no issues with this, as this would set a 'precident' in her eyes with the court, and weaken what she sees as a future custody argument.
She already frustrates my telephone acccess, medical record access, etc., so this is nothing new.
The reason I want extended access (a whopping 5 days) is that the children seem to just get used to being here, and then off they go back to their mothers for 2 weeks. I feel that this would allow good bonding time for the children, and be to their benefit which I state, and that it would be best if they were not trucked back and forth every 2 days over the holiday, but she ignores this with a simple 'no' even though she offers the same time, just never in a row, and gives me no explination - logical or otherwise.
Am I being reasonable, and if so can anything be done, or at the VERY least better documented for future use?
Thanks!
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