My ex-fiance and I got engaged in January 2009 and have been living together since then (he moved in with me in my home province). During our first year together, we split our living expenses (rent,food,etc). Then he got a better job in New Brunswick and I moved there to be there with him. It's safe to say that I gave up everything for him: my family/friends, my home, and a well paying job.
It was agreed from the beginning, since we were moving for his new job, he would pay to have my vehicle shipped East. We could not rely on one vehicle for both our jobs in New Brunswick. He did not follow through with paying for the shipment and I footed the bill myself with the understanding that he would pay me back (I had to put it on my credit card).
Things in New Brunswick were difficult, though I was able to get a job much like my old one, I did not get paid what I was used to and for the first time in 6 years, I was financially dependent on someone. I did not contribute as much as I would have liked to our new home (which is in his name), but that's not to say I didn't offer to pay part of the bills (utilities/phone/cable,etc) when I could, everytime he said that he understood why I couldn't pay my share and would refuse to have me pay for anything.
In October he decided he wanted us to take a break, we had been arguing a lot lately and he suggested that I go home to visit family for a few weeks (which turned into two months). He assured me that we weren't breaking up, we were just taking a breather, so I agreed. We kept in touch, talking daily and I thought things were fine.
Until he broke up with me last month.
He had the locks changed on the house, he refuses to see me and threatened to go out of town if I decided to fly back to NB to get my things. His reasoning was that he was afraid I would try to change his mind.
He agreed to pay the balance on my credit card (to reimburse me for shipping my vehicle East), pay for shipping my vehicle back to me in my home province, and to give me money to start over (enough to pay rent for two months), roughly adding up to 10K.
I'm not asking for more money and I agree the amount is generous. But now, he's going back on everything!
Is there anyone out there who can give me advice?
It was agreed from the beginning, since we were moving for his new job, he would pay to have my vehicle shipped East. We could not rely on one vehicle for both our jobs in New Brunswick. He did not follow through with paying for the shipment and I footed the bill myself with the understanding that he would pay me back (I had to put it on my credit card).
Things in New Brunswick were difficult, though I was able to get a job much like my old one, I did not get paid what I was used to and for the first time in 6 years, I was financially dependent on someone. I did not contribute as much as I would have liked to our new home (which is in his name), but that's not to say I didn't offer to pay part of the bills (utilities/phone/cable,etc) when I could, everytime he said that he understood why I couldn't pay my share and would refuse to have me pay for anything.
In October he decided he wanted us to take a break, we had been arguing a lot lately and he suggested that I go home to visit family for a few weeks (which turned into two months). He assured me that we weren't breaking up, we were just taking a breather, so I agreed. We kept in touch, talking daily and I thought things were fine.
Until he broke up with me last month.
He had the locks changed on the house, he refuses to see me and threatened to go out of town if I decided to fly back to NB to get my things. His reasoning was that he was afraid I would try to change his mind.
He agreed to pay the balance on my credit card (to reimburse me for shipping my vehicle East), pay for shipping my vehicle back to me in my home province, and to give me money to start over (enough to pay rent for two months), roughly adding up to 10K.
I'm not asking for more money and I agree the amount is generous. But now, he's going back on everything!
Is there anyone out there who can give me advice?
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