So, I think she knows she'll lose in court as she wants me to keep paying for my 19 y/o who's out of high school.
She's tossing out the guilt trip thing "I'm not going to force him (my 19yo) to work when he doesn't want to yet.. and even if he gets a job, he needs to save for school. It wouldn't be fair to make him pay room & board. And when he sees mom in a financial 'hardship' due to lack of CS for him, he'll know it's all your fault (meaning me). How can you call yourself a 'father' when you're planning to treat your son this way ('force him to work'), etc."
I'm sure some of you have dealt with this before... any suggestions?
I have court coming up later this year to on all this and s7 issues for a younger child (she thinks 'all' extracurricular activities qualify as s7 expenses) and this court trip is going to cost me a $1300 plane ticket, and 3 days of missed wages. She's really trying to hit me with the guilt trip now and I'm starting to side with her -- but I also know she's extremely greedy and hiding her own income to say she's in a financial hardship to try for sympathy. My 19 y/o has opportunity to work - full time at a really good wage too (he's uncertain as to if he'd like the work though).
What would you do? And any other suggestions? Essentially if I don't keep paying, she'll find a way to bring that between my sons and me and turn me into the 'deadbeat' dad who's as good as dead to the kids.
(as an fyi, she quit her well paying job to become self employed and show a business loss each and every month since the start of the year. she claims she's a 'full time student' again too - already has over $150k in student loan debt).
She's tossing out the guilt trip thing "I'm not going to force him (my 19yo) to work when he doesn't want to yet.. and even if he gets a job, he needs to save for school. It wouldn't be fair to make him pay room & board. And when he sees mom in a financial 'hardship' due to lack of CS for him, he'll know it's all your fault (meaning me). How can you call yourself a 'father' when you're planning to treat your son this way ('force him to work'), etc."
I'm sure some of you have dealt with this before... any suggestions?
I have court coming up later this year to on all this and s7 issues for a younger child (she thinks 'all' extracurricular activities qualify as s7 expenses) and this court trip is going to cost me a $1300 plane ticket, and 3 days of missed wages. She's really trying to hit me with the guilt trip now and I'm starting to side with her -- but I also know she's extremely greedy and hiding her own income to say she's in a financial hardship to try for sympathy. My 19 y/o has opportunity to work - full time at a really good wage too (he's uncertain as to if he'd like the work though).
What would you do? And any other suggestions? Essentially if I don't keep paying, she'll find a way to bring that between my sons and me and turn me into the 'deadbeat' dad who's as good as dead to the kids.
(as an fyi, she quit her well paying job to become self employed and show a business loss each and every month since the start of the year. she claims she's a 'full time student' again too - already has over $150k in student loan debt).
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