Hello, I'll try and make this brief but would like advice if any shuould have some, My x is self employed, we were married for 19 years 3 kids, I stayed home and did the bookkeeping(he mostly worked on his own except for casual labour at times)and have handled the finances for the house and the business since we were married, for the last 3-4 years I went out and worked part-time in same industry, we have been seperated for 1 year but live in same house due to debt build up, since July he has taken the business bookkeeping away and took away access to the business acct.Since this time his girlfriend is doing the bookkeeping. We live in a house that is worth about 460,000 with 300 mortgage, since he has done or tried to do the payments of bills we have been threatened with closure on most all our utilities, we have had a business valuator and because of his information given, (and that we have always showed a lose and taken most of the equity, ie split income 35,000 each,) the business was valued lower than I expected, I am entitled to 50%.But he will not say that his income is more because of the personal expenses we have always put thru Ie: gas, restaurants, vechile insurance etc. sponsorship for hockey etc. which would add up to approx.90,000 per year, I have no income so am looking for substancial spousal for a few years,I am currently going to school to change careers inthe hopes to be financial indepenent of him, I owe to date over 10,000 in legal fees without being ahead, (character bashing and counter offers)-- still which are outstanding (he has paid his)til house is sold,(i had to wait for 6 months for his financial statement so refused to sell house til all was settled and not to disrupt the kids in school. I had to put in a court application which gave him 30 days to produce his financials,He can with an offer on monday for 900 per month and I told him where to put it,Today he offered me 2500 per month ( I mentioned this amount at some time I'm told)but I would have to sign an agreement that it would end in 2 years except for the custody amount of 500, I told him custody amount would be more because of what he makes, he said he could prove the debt he is in and it would not! I know I tried to cram my mess into a few paragraphs but has anyone gone thru a settlement or have heard of one like mine, I just don't know if I should try and work with this or because I have came this far and am trying to build my life over, go for the gusto, I do not want to get screwed financially or will the courts if I choose to take it that far look and say he offered you this and thats what your getting! Its so sad really except for the kids all those years invested for what!! And every time you ask your lawyer it cost you your arm.. Any feedback would be great--
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