things are continuing to escalate in my situation and seem to be getting worst and worst with the recent access cancellations and silly accusations in order to reduce my access. The other parent simply wants to reduce whatever extra time she has been giving me and is now trying to completely block my access due to exchanges taking place at daycares. mind you the child isn't actually at daycare and other parent just uses daycare as an exchange point and brings her whole family and friends with her, some of which have filed affidavits against me in court including her mom and sister.
I appreciate everyone's support and am open to hear from you all regardless of us ever having got up on the wrong foot.
anyway, final order allows further times to be agreed upon in writing including a mid-week visit
mid-week was initially agreed on to be 6 - 7 and then expanded after a court date to 4 - 7. the expansion is not in any court order and is simply via email between other parent and I.
shortly after the expansion , the other parent reduced the time to 5 - 7 and I said no. she said child will not be ready for me at that time and actually didn't have child ready until her imposed time so I just started to show up at the newly imposed time of 5.
I continued to ask for more time and asked to be allowed to get child from school specially due to issues with the babysitter (CAS allegations between us and rude way of talking to me . insulting me, talking to me about CAS in front of child, etc ). I recently asked to expand access and the other parent said we will stick to our agreement last year. That agreement was of course for 4 and I showed up at 4 and was told nope it is actually 5. A day later she came back wanting to reduce the pickup time even more (5:30) accusing me of not feeding the child. I said no and reminded her that our original agreement was actually 4.
Other parent continued to say no and recently sent a nasty email telling me to "stop playing games and stop bitching about the issues with babysitter" and said that I must send a 3rd party to pickup my kid for me. The imposed pickup time (5-7) by the other parent has been in place for a year. I asked that our child be ready at the initial time we agreed on (4 - 7) and that our lawyers could talk about changing the schedule.
Q: Was I reasonable in recently requesting that our child be ready for the 4 time while our lawyers talk if I have been getting child at 5 for the last year ? Should i have asked for the 5:00 time instead ? The 5:00 time was never agreed on - I simply received a message a year ago that the child wouldn't be made available to me until 5.
Q: If the other parent and babysitter don't want to do exchanges at their residence and use that to deny me any time - what is the best approach around this
I am considering getting child from school but want to avoid just showing up at the school without an agreement.
Q: How about in the case of the weekends - weekends used to be Saturdays pickups but were expanded as part of our email agreement to Friday pickups.
The pickup times are same as pickup times mentioned here for the weekday/mid-week visit access and feel may turn into an issue with this whole I must send a 3rd party to pick up the child nonsense.
Q: Can she just simply say we could not agree on a mid-week access and use that to deny me mid-week? Would the email agreement be considered a valid agreement as per the order that states as such further and other times as we can agree in writing including a -mid week visit ? Would this imply that an agreement must be reached for every week or we reach an agreement and that will be in place until we reach a new agreement ?
I appreciate everyone's support and am open to hear from you all regardless of us ever having got up on the wrong foot.
anyway, final order allows further times to be agreed upon in writing including a mid-week visit
mid-week was initially agreed on to be 6 - 7 and then expanded after a court date to 4 - 7. the expansion is not in any court order and is simply via email between other parent and I.
shortly after the expansion , the other parent reduced the time to 5 - 7 and I said no. she said child will not be ready for me at that time and actually didn't have child ready until her imposed time so I just started to show up at the newly imposed time of 5.
I continued to ask for more time and asked to be allowed to get child from school specially due to issues with the babysitter (CAS allegations between us and rude way of talking to me . insulting me, talking to me about CAS in front of child, etc ). I recently asked to expand access and the other parent said we will stick to our agreement last year. That agreement was of course for 4 and I showed up at 4 and was told nope it is actually 5. A day later she came back wanting to reduce the pickup time even more (5:30) accusing me of not feeding the child. I said no and reminded her that our original agreement was actually 4.
Other parent continued to say no and recently sent a nasty email telling me to "stop playing games and stop bitching about the issues with babysitter" and said that I must send a 3rd party to pickup my kid for me. The imposed pickup time (5-7) by the other parent has been in place for a year. I asked that our child be ready at the initial time we agreed on (4 - 7) and that our lawyers could talk about changing the schedule.
Q: Was I reasonable in recently requesting that our child be ready for the 4 time while our lawyers talk if I have been getting child at 5 for the last year ? Should i have asked for the 5:00 time instead ? The 5:00 time was never agreed on - I simply received a message a year ago that the child wouldn't be made available to me until 5.
Q: If the other parent and babysitter don't want to do exchanges at their residence and use that to deny me any time - what is the best approach around this
I am considering getting child from school but want to avoid just showing up at the school without an agreement.
Q: How about in the case of the weekends - weekends used to be Saturdays pickups but were expanded as part of our email agreement to Friday pickups.
The pickup times are same as pickup times mentioned here for the weekday/mid-week visit access and feel may turn into an issue with this whole I must send a 3rd party to pick up the child nonsense.
Q: Can she just simply say we could not agree on a mid-week access and use that to deny me mid-week? Would the email agreement be considered a valid agreement as per the order that states as such further and other times as we can agree in writing including a -mid week visit ? Would this imply that an agreement must be reached for every week or we reach an agreement and that will be in place until we reach a new agreement ?
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