she called the police

[nogoingback]

My ex called the police when I knocked several times on her door to pick up my children for a planned two week vacation. She refused to answer the door, called me on my cell asking what I wanted. I explained this was the pre-arranged time to exchange the children. She denied this and produced a schedule that she altered and then printed to show me, which indicated an exchange taking place a day later. I live a block away so went home and printed off the correct schedule, and dropped it off at her house. I returned home and tried calling and texting several times to discuss, telling her to stop the trickery and to drop off the children.
After no response I gave up, and went downtown to run some errands. 1.5 hours later I got a voicemail and text saying the children were outside of my house waiting for me. I responded saying I would be home in 20 minutes. I texted her when I returned, and she and two police officers escorted my children to my door.
The police asked to come into my house to discuss, saying that my ex did not appreciate my tone, but that she now admitted that she had the wrong day. The police said someone would be following up with me in a few days. No one has yet.
I was in disbelief. I told the police she is either incredibly dishonest, or incredibly unorganized, neither of which is acceptable.
I am so upset that she put my children through this.
Question: How do I document this so that the true facts are laid out? I fully expect her to attempt to leverage this somehow in future proceedings and feel I need to protect myself.

[Serene]

Ask the police to record her error/disorganisation in the narrative of their report.

However, if it was an error - what's one going to do with it? Meaning, if it's not a pattern, no one will care sadly.

[nogoingback]

Ask the police to record her error/disorganisation in the narrative of their report.

However, if it was an error - what's one going to do with it? Meaning, if it's not a pattern, no one will care sadly.

There has not been any pattern or "exchange" issues in the past, so in that sense it does not really matter. However, she has portrayed me as high conflict in court before in an attempt to reduce my parenting time, and I think the courts will have difficulty ignoring a call to the police.
I suppose I will just ask for the police report.

[OntarioDaddyMan]

There has not been any pattern or "exchange" issues in the past, so in that sense it does not really matter. However, she has portrayed me as high conflict in court before in an attempt to reduce my parenting time, and I think the courts will have difficulty ignoring a call to the police.
I suppose I will just ask for the police report.

Do exactly that. And that's all you can do. Bite the bullet and hope it does not become a pattern.

[Headwaters1]

I video tape on my cell every pick up and drop of. I start recording when I pull up and don't stop until I pull away. I won't get any awards for cinematography...it's always jumping around but it's always in my hand and running.

Before everyone says be careful and you can't use it in court...agreed. But when the police show up...I can play every encounter over the past ten months and ask..."do you see me behaving badly?". If OCL ask...I can tell I have a recording of ever interaction. I think it's powerful in court even to say...hey I have every exchange recorded if anyone cares to see.

My ex went to the police after being in court twice to make a report on something that she claims happened a year earlier...just out of spite. No charges.

This is going to drive you crazy but to get that police report I had to go through a 30 day freedom of information process...what? I'm the subject of the friggin report...and I can't see it? Anyways...

I don't think it will mean much. It seems like a big deal now (I know) but by the time you guys get in front of a judge...a police report talking about "tone" will make her look pretty ridiculous.

[rockscan]

I was reading through this blog yesterday and saw this:

http://blog.separation.ca/tape-recordings-evidence

Kind of interesting how some behaviours do get called out.

[Headwaters1]

That's a Great one!

And for the record...I am clearly recording the exchange to everyone's knowledge. I am not intending to secretly record. My ex knows it's on. Which I think also helps facilitate a quieter exchange. Has worked for now more than 100 exchanges. Wow.

She sometimes says I'm rude to record in a snarky voice. Aaah yeah.

You know what I find rude?....false allegations of verbal, police reports, accusation of child abuse, unannounced CAS visits, 20k in unnecessary legal fees, a year lost to all consuming legal process.....

But...she has helped me find a new hobby. I logged on this morning and was shocked that there were no new posts on the "need to see my daughter" thread. It's like CBS has canceled my favorite show or something. I'm sure it's just been moved to another time slot.

As heart breaking as it is...this is real life drama...

I hate reality tv but maybe we ought to take a shot at a series "My Baby Mama's Crazy"

[LifeIsLong]

That's a Great one!

And for the record...I am clearly recording the exchange to everyone's knowledge. I am not intending to secretly record. My ex knows it's on. Which I think also helps facilitate a quieter exchange. Has worked for now more than 100 exchanges. Wow.

She sometimes says I'm rude to record in a snarky voice. Aaah yeah.

You know what I find rude?....false allegations of verbal, police reports, accusation of child abuse, unannounced CAS visits, 20k in unnecessary legal fees, a year lost to all consuming legal process.....

But...she has helped me find a new hobby. I logged on this morning and was shocked that there were no new posts on the "need to see my daughter" thread. It's like CBS has canceled my favorite show or something. I'm sure it's just been moved to another time slot.

As heart breaking as it is...this is real life drama...

I hate reality tv but maybe we ought to take a shot at a series "My Baby Mama's Crazy"

I logged on this morning and was shocked that there were no new posts on the "need to see my daughter" thread. It's like CBS has canceled my favorite show or something. I'm sure it's just been moved to another time slot.

lol I cant believe how many ppl follow and monitor it. And that guy had a part 1 too?

[FB_]

Crazy can sneak up on you...

[Links17]

After no response I gave up, and went downtown to run some errands. 1.5 hours later I got a voicemail and text saying the children were outside of my house waiting for me. I responded saying I would be home in 20 minutes. I texted her when I returned, and she and two police officers escorted my children to my door.

This is F***ing crazy - calling the police in the middle of a dispute to help settle it is one thing. PRE-PLANNING a police ambush drop off with children adds complete unnecessary stress to the kids.

I would destroy her with this in court, she could have easily arranged the drop off and had no contact with you (i.e: saw you coming, asked to kids to get out of the car, and drive off).

And this IS part of a pattern of trying to create conflict just a new venue based on what you've said.

[nogoingback]

I would destroy her with this in court, she could have easily arranged the drop off and had no contact with you (i.e: saw you coming, asked to kids to get out of the car, and drive off).

I would very much like to, mostly in order to protect myself. I feel if I am not proactive with this, she will do her best to turn this in her favor. This is why I need to get some factual based evidence, rather than something that simply reflects my opinion.
I am disgusted at the lengths she will go to, putting the children in the middle of it all.