First off, I arrived way too early (an hour an a half) as I was immediately told that duty council would have lunch and talk to me once finished lunch at 2:00. Which was when our case conference was scheduled for. Duty council didn't really say much to me at all.
I met with the respondents lawyer and she briefly told me that they were willing to work on an a agreement. I told her that supervised access was far fetched and that I didn't find it necessary as I am not a threat to the child. I told the lawyer that I would like to hear the judges advice.
The judge basically said that we are two young parents who can't agree. He did say that it is important for the child to spend time with BOTH parents. He explained to me that I would be granted permission to file a motion for access but suggested that I accept the 1 month of supervised access at a centre. He basically implied that it was peanuts to do and to just get it over with.
I was very hesitant making a deal with the respondents lawyer as I am only self representing and am just learning the court process.
The order I agreed to is as follows
a) twice weekly for two hours supervised at a access centre
b)Upon four consecutive week of successful supervised access visits the access shall occur twice weekly, two hour unsupervised visits for two weeks. After the two weeks the applicant shall have unsupervised visits every wednesday from 9:00 a.m.-12:00 a.m. and alternating weekends on saturday and sunday from 10 a.m. - 3:00 p.m.
b)The applicant shall provide the respondent with 24 hours notice should he have to cancel an access visit
4) the parents shall communicate only by email for the purpose of discussing access. In the even of an emergency the parties shall be permitted to contact each other by telephone.
5) neither parties shall speak disparagingly towards one another. particularly in front of the child.
Also, child support was settled even though I will be paying FRO as the respondent is on assistance.
Settlement conference booked for Dec. 21.
The way I look at it is that I am at least getting some visitation as I have barely had any in this 8 month year olds life. I understand that the judge would want me to ease my way into our daughters life.
Do you think I did the right thing in this situation? I had a spur of the moment decision where I didn't want to wait another 2 months while a motion was in process to spend time with my daughter.
Thank you!
I met with the respondents lawyer and she briefly told me that they were willing to work on an a agreement. I told her that supervised access was far fetched and that I didn't find it necessary as I am not a threat to the child. I told the lawyer that I would like to hear the judges advice.
The judge basically said that we are two young parents who can't agree. He did say that it is important for the child to spend time with BOTH parents. He explained to me that I would be granted permission to file a motion for access but suggested that I accept the 1 month of supervised access at a centre. He basically implied that it was peanuts to do and to just get it over with.
I was very hesitant making a deal with the respondents lawyer as I am only self representing and am just learning the court process.
The order I agreed to is as follows
a) twice weekly for two hours supervised at a access centre
b)Upon four consecutive week of successful supervised access visits the access shall occur twice weekly, two hour unsupervised visits for two weeks. After the two weeks the applicant shall have unsupervised visits every wednesday from 9:00 a.m.-12:00 a.m. and alternating weekends on saturday and sunday from 10 a.m. - 3:00 p.m.
b)The applicant shall provide the respondent with 24 hours notice should he have to cancel an access visit
4) the parents shall communicate only by email for the purpose of discussing access. In the even of an emergency the parties shall be permitted to contact each other by telephone.
5) neither parties shall speak disparagingly towards one another. particularly in front of the child.
Also, child support was settled even though I will be paying FRO as the respondent is on assistance.
Settlement conference booked for Dec. 21.
The way I look at it is that I am at least getting some visitation as I have barely had any in this 8 month year olds life. I understand that the judge would want me to ease my way into our daughters life.
Do you think I did the right thing in this situation? I had a spur of the moment decision where I didn't want to wait another 2 months while a motion was in process to spend time with my daughter.
Thank you!
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