The daughter is 14, so she basically can make her own decision. That being said, they have only been separated for 3 years. It is not fair to assume that Dad has been absent from the daughters life for 14 years and had 14 years to form a relationship. For all we know they had a great relationship until separation. How does one know the mother didn't paint a bad picture about the father? How does one know what Mom is saying is 100% true... maybe Dad tried, maybe Mom had a legal aid lawyer and Dad just did not have the funds any more. Assumptions do not help. Why not try to answer the OP's questions instead of playing the assumptions game?
To the OP- Give it a chance. Encourage your daughter to try it out. Give it say a month and see if Dad actually steps up. If after a month daughter is still just hanging out in her room and has no real relationship with Dad then at least you can say you tried and things can do back to normal.
Maybe this is about money to Dad, but it also seems about money to the OP, so in reality, neither of them are better than the other. A relationship with both parents is best. Give your daughter the chance to rebuild a relationship with her father. If it works out, she will be grateful, if it doesn't she will at least know you cared enough to try and encourage her to have a relationship with her father.
To the OP- Give it a chance. Encourage your daughter to try it out. Give it say a month and see if Dad actually steps up. If after a month daughter is still just hanging out in her room and has no real relationship with Dad then at least you can say you tried and things can do back to normal.
Maybe this is about money to Dad, but it also seems about money to the OP, so in reality, neither of them are better than the other. A relationship with both parents is best. Give your daughter the chance to rebuild a relationship with her father. If it works out, she will be grateful, if it doesn't she will at least know you cared enough to try and encourage her to have a relationship with her father.
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