so I think I'm in a bit of a sticky s7 situation, and wanted to hear what everyone else has to say. order has sole custody to other parent, access to me, and nothing about s7 expenses.
child has been struggling in school and the schools suggested counselling. mom never took that recommendation.
a year later, mom put her in this acedemic program that basically sits children to do workbooks - it is not tutoring. the child is also doing this special ed program at her school as part of the IEP. I've many many times asked for extra time to help child at home.
the child was signed up at the program 1 month before this conversation started.
the conversations went as follows:
Parent A: child is signed up for X program, this is how much it costs, and this is the receipt. (receipt was dated a month prior), the school has her IEP available.
me: I don't have IEP and I don't agree, I can help child at home.
Me: I've checked IEP and I see she is behind in X and Y, I think that tutoring is an excellent way for _child_ to get some extra help
Me I would like to know why I am hearing about this just now and would greatly appreciate it if I could be kept informed of these things well in advance in the future. We need to split the costs as a proportion of our incomes. I’ll need to know what your income is. can I pay them directly?
Me: I think counselling would be beneficial
Parent A: For right now she has the program 3 times a week and she has homework from other programs as well. This should all help her self-esteem, otherwise, counselling will be looked into. I don’t want child to have too many appointments and homework . Right now the payments come from my account.
Me: Thank you for making the appropriate arrangements for our child’s tutoring. I'm going to need a copy of your Notice of Assessment. Also, I would be happy to take child to the appointments when she is with me
In the future I would like to be informed prior to registration. I would be happy to discuss and assist in selecting the appropriate professional. This will eliminate the chance of any conflict between us.
Thank you for your recommendation on how we should approach counselling.
Email for other issues which included: Please send me receipts every month I will make my required payment to you within 20 days. I am agreeing to contribute towards tutoring and nothing else at this point, unless we discuss and agree.
paid for couple of months without reciepts, I stopped getting reciepts, and stopped paying all together. Child was sent with pile of homework from that program on a weekend, and I met with the 3rd party and learned that the child has to be there all year around (including holidays) and that there is homework everyday from that program.
following all of this, we signed agreement that she was to give me reciepts of expenses she was seeking from me. there was no agreement that I would reimburse her.
I suggested counselling, and she agrees it would benefit the child. I don't agree with the activity as it isn't necessary and leads to too much homework
it also lead to this: http://www.ottawadivorce.com/forum/f...tivites-20876/
did I come off as agreeing to this? paying careful attention that the decision was made a month before I was approached. is it reasonable for me to suggest the program is not helpful and counselling would be better? I have evidence to suggest that the child isn't to keen about the program.
child has been struggling in school and the schools suggested counselling. mom never took that recommendation.
a year later, mom put her in this acedemic program that basically sits children to do workbooks - it is not tutoring. the child is also doing this special ed program at her school as part of the IEP. I've many many times asked for extra time to help child at home.
the child was signed up at the program 1 month before this conversation started.
the conversations went as follows:
Parent A: child is signed up for X program, this is how much it costs, and this is the receipt. (receipt was dated a month prior), the school has her IEP available.
me: I don't have IEP and I don't agree, I can help child at home.
Me: I've checked IEP and I see she is behind in X and Y, I think that tutoring is an excellent way for _child_ to get some extra help
Me I would like to know why I am hearing about this just now and would greatly appreciate it if I could be kept informed of these things well in advance in the future. We need to split the costs as a proportion of our incomes. I’ll need to know what your income is. can I pay them directly?
Me: I think counselling would be beneficial
Parent A: For right now she has the program 3 times a week and she has homework from other programs as well. This should all help her self-esteem, otherwise, counselling will be looked into. I don’t want child to have too many appointments and homework . Right now the payments come from my account.
Me: Thank you for making the appropriate arrangements for our child’s tutoring. I'm going to need a copy of your Notice of Assessment. Also, I would be happy to take child to the appointments when she is with me
In the future I would like to be informed prior to registration. I would be happy to discuss and assist in selecting the appropriate professional. This will eliminate the chance of any conflict between us.
Thank you for your recommendation on how we should approach counselling.
Email for other issues which included: Please send me receipts every month I will make my required payment to you within 20 days. I am agreeing to contribute towards tutoring and nothing else at this point, unless we discuss and agree.
paid for couple of months without reciepts, I stopped getting reciepts, and stopped paying all together. Child was sent with pile of homework from that program on a weekend, and I met with the 3rd party and learned that the child has to be there all year around (including holidays) and that there is homework everyday from that program.
following all of this, we signed agreement that she was to give me reciepts of expenses she was seeking from me. there was no agreement that I would reimburse her.
I suggested counselling, and she agrees it would benefit the child. I don't agree with the activity as it isn't necessary and leads to too much homework
it also lead to this: http://www.ottawadivorce.com/forum/f...tivites-20876/
did I come off as agreeing to this? paying careful attention that the decision was made a month before I was approached. is it reasonable for me to suggest the program is not helpful and counselling would be better? I have evidence to suggest that the child isn't to keen about the program.
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