My 3 YO daughter is going in for a tonsillectomy on Wednesday. She has to stay home from daycare for 10 days to recover and to make sure there are no complications. I have her with me only until Friday afternoon, then her father will have her for a week.
I am really worried that he doesn't realize how serious this is. He did not attend the specialist appointment or her doctors appointment last week, he has no idea what kind of care she will need. He did not even arrange to be on vacation to stay home with her and her won't tell me who is watching her. She cannot be playing with other kids, she has to stay in bed, and kept calm and occupied quietly. I beieve he probably has one of her aunts watching her, so that means there will be other young kids around to get her excited. If not an aunt he might even have his 15 YO neice watching her. I just don't know.
Any other time I would not try to get involved, his time is his time. But this is scaring me. The biggest most common complication is with serious bleeding. I know someone whose sister almost died from the same surgery just last summer. I really think my worries are valid.
Back in October when the surgery was scheduled I made sure that I arranged my vacation time to coincide with the surgery. I want to be able to watch her during the day if he is not home with her. Is this unreasonable? I could pick her up and drop her off and he wouldn't lose any time with her at all. But I just talked to him and I couldn't even bring it up. He actually sounded offended that I called him to tell him the doctor wanted to talk to him about her aftercare.
Does anyone have any advice? Am I overreacting? I am so worried that she will not get the level of care I could give her. Thanks.
I am really worried that he doesn't realize how serious this is. He did not attend the specialist appointment or her doctors appointment last week, he has no idea what kind of care she will need. He did not even arrange to be on vacation to stay home with her and her won't tell me who is watching her. She cannot be playing with other kids, she has to stay in bed, and kept calm and occupied quietly. I beieve he probably has one of her aunts watching her, so that means there will be other young kids around to get her excited. If not an aunt he might even have his 15 YO neice watching her. I just don't know.
Any other time I would not try to get involved, his time is his time. But this is scaring me. The biggest most common complication is with serious bleeding. I know someone whose sister almost died from the same surgery just last summer. I really think my worries are valid.
Back in October when the surgery was scheduled I made sure that I arranged my vacation time to coincide with the surgery. I want to be able to watch her during the day if he is not home with her. Is this unreasonable? I could pick her up and drop her off and he wouldn't lose any time with her at all. But I just talked to him and I couldn't even bring it up. He actually sounded offended that I called him to tell him the doctor wanted to talk to him about her aftercare.
Does anyone have any advice? Am I overreacting? I am so worried that she will not get the level of care I could give her. Thanks.
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