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  • #16
    I agree with blink that you do whatever you think is best for your child. Would be foolish for your ex to try to turn this against you in court as you made your decision on advice you received from a doctor of dentistry. Once the offending tooth is extracted (with or without GA) there will be little to squabble about.

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    • #17
      Originally posted by arabian View Post
      I think many of us make decisions for our children based on our own personal experiences. Your ex thinks your child should toughen up and let dentist get on with things without GA. I felt the same way with my son when he was young and needed a few extractions for braces. I recall the dentist telling me I should take my son to a pediatric dentist because my son was bawling (young dentist was likely concerned that son's bawling was too loud). Interestingly though, I saw that my son was wailing before dentist had even done anything. I told the dentist to get on with it already. 10 minutes later my son emerged with his mouth full of cotton. Not a big deal whatsoever.

      I also have a friend who insists on a GA for simple teeth cleaning because she has a fear of dentists.

      There is a possibility that your child did feel associated pain from surrounding teeth or tissue even though his mouth had been frozen. Dentist should have simply injected more freezing. I recently had a tooth repaired and despite plenty of freezing I did feel the drill. Dentist had to stop 2 times to inject more freezing. I experienced tooth pain a few weeks after the procedure. This is not unusual.

      1300.00 for GA and a root canal is a waste of money IMO for a non-permanent tooth. Once you start doing that are you going to have GA for routine dental cleaning? Your child will be going to the dentist for the rest of his life. Was your child more comfortable with the other dentist? Sometimes you simply need to find the right dentist that your child feels comfortable with. I'd consider using GA for removal of severely impacted wisdom teeth but certainly not for removal of baby teeth which is a fairly routine procedure as getting braces is a commonplace thing.

      No one likes to hear their child bawling whether it's for inoculations or going to dentist. There are many things which are unpleasant.

      You are both good parents as you have taken your child to the dentist. There are MANY people out there who simply do not take their children to the dentist.
      With respect, there is a distinct difference between kids that bawl and whimper, and kids that scream hysterically and trash around like they're being murdered.

      Everyone's different, and it is quite likely that this kid will benefit from a GA.

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      • #18
        I hear ya ^ - my kid was hysterical. In future appointments I requested the "screamer time" at the end of the day. Soon he chilled about the whole thing.

        I've often postulated about people who have an intense fear of cats. When you ask them if their mother also had the same fear, more often than not I am told that yes their mother had the same fear. I wonder if adult's fear and trepidation of dentists gets transposed to the children? I recall hearing horror stories about getting one's wisdom teeth removed when I was a teenager. When my time came for this most unpleasant experience I was surprised that it really wasn't as bad as I expected it to be.

        Nowadays GA is given frequently and dentists have built lucrative practices on the fear of patients. Too bad they don't lower the cost and give stressed out parents a break.

        Each to their own - as I said before, these are good parents who take their kids to the dentist. Praise the Lord for that!

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        • #19
          Good point about fears and fear projection on to children. I agree with you on that one. I had a huge fear of spiders and the damn things always end up surprising the hell out of me, so in order not to project it onto my son, I've learned to "put my big girl pants on" and get a kleenex

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          • #20
            Son and I both freak out about spiders (he definitely learned it from me).

            I happen to work for a specialist and I have frequent convos with patients about their "fears" over surgery and other medical treatment. (Don't worry I am much more compassionate on the phone than my posts on here). I talk with more frightened adults than children. I really think it comes down to a comfort level between patient and medical practitioner. Often patients simply don't have enough information upon which to make decisions. Doctors/dentists don't want their patients to suffer. I think you were correct in going to the pediatric dentist as they do have specialized training in dealing with children. Many dentists, like my dentist who had just graduated from dental school at the time he saw my son, simply don't like dealing with upset patients. Years later my dentist and I laughed about how I barked at him to "get er done" when dealing with my cry-baby son. (I probably had a tee time that I didn't want to miss and was annoyed by waiting around. I do recall being quite aggravated by the dentist's reluctance to pull out my son's tooth).

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            • #21
              Originally posted by arabian View Post
              I hear ya ^ - my kid was hysterical. In future appointments I requested the "screamer time" at the end of the day. Soon he chilled about the whole thing.

              I've often postulated about people who have an intense fear of cats. When you ask them if their mother also had the same fear, more often than not I am told that yes their mother had the same fear. I wonder if adult's fear and trepidation of dentists gets transposed to the children? I recall hearing horror stories about getting one's wisdom teeth removed when I was a teenager. When my time came for this most unpleasant experience I was surprised that it really wasn't as bad as I expected it to be.

              Nowadays GA is given frequently and dentists have built lucrative practices on the fear of patients. Too bad they don't lower the cost and give stressed out parents a break.

              Each to their own - as I said before, these are good parents who take their kids to the dentist. Praise the Lord for that!
              No fear projection here. Ex and I were quite comfortable with the dentist.

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              • #22
                We've done both ways. At 5 we did local freezing and tooth extracted. I won't be popular but they will live. Many risks with GA that I do not want to take.

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                • #23
                  Young children look to their parents for how to react in certain situations. If either mom or dad turn on the drama, kidlet will follow suit. Keep reminding the child of how the dentist wants to make the BOO BOO stop by pulling out the bad tooth. A good dentist will make the procedure painless ... GA for one little tooth is not worth the health risks. Bribery usually works - "if you behave at the dentist today, I promise to take you to ....or buy you a ...."

                  You do what you have to do to get it done with the least amount of fussing lol!

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                  • #24
                    As already said - just do it. If your ex takes you to court over this he'll look like an idiot.

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                    • #25
                      Originally posted by Janibel View Post
                      Young children look to their parents for how to react in certain situations. If either mom or dad turn on the drama, kidlet will follow suit. Keep reminding the child of how the dentist wants to make the BOO BOO stop by pulling out the bad tooth. A good dentist will make the procedure painless ... GA for one little tooth is not worth the health risks. Bribery usually works - "if you behave at the dentist today, I promise to take you to ....or buy you a ...."

                      You do what you have to do to get it done with the least amount of fussing lol!

                      It is so funny to watch all of this well intentioned advice.

                      Did all of those things with my daughter, and my ex and I were 100% o the same page, and didn't transfer any anxiety, fears,etc., and she still completely freaked out and screamed and writhed, and basically scared the shut out of half the office.

                      Some kids/people can handle it, some can't. The people who haven't experienced the joys of attempting to deal with a truky hysterical child in a dentist chair will naively share all of their nifty strategies that happened to work for them, and that's fine, it really is. It just isn't realistic. They have GA available for a reason, and it's okay to use it.
                      Last edited by Straittohell; 01-16-2015, 11:23 PM.

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                      • #26
                        Your fear is court not best interest of the child? But you have best interest of the child in mind so why fear court? He cant do absolutelly nothing. But IMO GA is not needed because the s5 can be tricked and convinced and pain from needle before anasthasia kicks in is only a couple of minutes. IF that happened to fail, then have a letter from dentist and your ex WILL repay half plus motion costs.

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                        • #27
                          Originally posted by The Iceberg View Post
                          But IMO GA is not needed because the s5 can be tricked and convinced and pain from needle before anasthasia kicks in is only a couple of minutes. .
                          That is quite logical, if the sensation of pain is what makes a kid hysterical. But it is the understanding of the procedure, powerlessness, and the anxiety surrounding it that causes most of the hysteria. Silly gas (nitrous oxide) might take care of that, but maybe not...

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                          • #28
                            I feel for the parents in this situation particularly if all future dental procedures will be with GA. It could be extremely expensive for them to maintain regular preventative dental in the future. I have heard that some find dental cleaning to be much more painful than fillings. Orthodontic (braces) can be unpleasant as well and requires a monthly adjustment.

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                            • #29
                              Originally posted by Helpless View Post
                              ...My spouse and I (have no med coverage) offered to pay all the costs related to the GA...
                              Why do you not also have med coverage for your child(ren)?

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                              • #30
                                Originally posted by Helpless View Post
                                ...The next day, ex called stating that his dentist had done the filling procedure and that everything had gone well in regards to our son...

                                ...It took my spouse and I an hour to try and convince S5 to go back, S5 was volatile, terrified, and in the end my spouse had to basket hold him, buckle him up in the vehicle, so that we could make the appointment in...
                                I'm confused by this.
                                So, the first dentist visit was fine and went well (or is the other parent lying?)
                                But the 2nd attempt to go to dentist, was apparently a nightmare, trying to get the kid to go?

                                It doesn't seem like this situation was handled well, if you don't want your kid to be anxious, to go to the dentist, now, or in future.
                                ex.
                                "my spouse had to basket hold him". ?

                                Yikes.

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