The OCL report was done in 2011, recommendations such as
-drug testing -to be completed in 2012
-addictions therapy - to be completed in 2012
-his pitbulls should never be in the presence of S4
-"de-couple's'' councilling for us both (to be arranged by him)
-so on so forth...
A final agreement was signed by a judge in April 2013 and those recommendations were accepted as "to do"s
As of today, ex has shown no reports of therapy or testing. I asked twice if he had looked into therapy for us and told me that his gf did not want us to go and last week my son came back from his father's with a big gash on his ankle and explained to me that while he was outside, one of the dogs was tied up and pulled on it's chain, he fell to the ground which cause the bobo.
Things of the such have been happening since day 1 of our separation almost 3 years ago. But I still gave him the benefit of the doubt that he would, having signed a final agreement with all the recommendations, do what he had to, to better himself and make sure S4 was in a safe, healthy environment.
My lawyer has made notice that the shared custody is clearly not working since there are many things that suggest that my ex cannot be civil (even via SMS)and also has not done, in the time allowed, what was asked of him. My lawyer suggests cutting down the time with the father since the signs are clear that he is irresponsible in regards to S4's safety and health.
Our parenting schedule is a progressive one (as recommended by OCL) so we add 1 day to his time per year. At which point when our son turns 6 it will be a 50/50 custody, with my residence as primary.
Any thoughts? What would you do?
-drug testing -to be completed in 2012
-addictions therapy - to be completed in 2012
-his pitbulls should never be in the presence of S4
-"de-couple's'' councilling for us both (to be arranged by him)
-so on so forth...
A final agreement was signed by a judge in April 2013 and those recommendations were accepted as "to do"s
As of today, ex has shown no reports of therapy or testing. I asked twice if he had looked into therapy for us and told me that his gf did not want us to go and last week my son came back from his father's with a big gash on his ankle and explained to me that while he was outside, one of the dogs was tied up and pulled on it's chain, he fell to the ground which cause the bobo.
Things of the such have been happening since day 1 of our separation almost 3 years ago. But I still gave him the benefit of the doubt that he would, having signed a final agreement with all the recommendations, do what he had to, to better himself and make sure S4 was in a safe, healthy environment.
My lawyer has made notice that the shared custody is clearly not working since there are many things that suggest that my ex cannot be civil (even via SMS)and also has not done, in the time allowed, what was asked of him. My lawyer suggests cutting down the time with the father since the signs are clear that he is irresponsible in regards to S4's safety and health.
Our parenting schedule is a progressive one (as recommended by OCL) so we add 1 day to his time per year. At which point when our son turns 6 it will be a 50/50 custody, with my residence as primary.
Any thoughts? What would you do?
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