I'm moving and it's causing a problem with my x.
Currently I'm living with a male roomate. He's a friend and my x knows him. Due to finicial issues and because my daughters crib is in my room I chose to move.
I will be moving into a town house where my daughter will have her own room and more room to play. My roomate will be moving to this townhouse as well and it's owned by another one of my friends who is also male (and my x also knows). This is causing problems with my daughters mother (x) and she's threating to refuse my overnight access when I move (next week).
Her view is that it's an unsafe environment due to 2 other males living in the house. Also, I use to live in this house before I met my x, and it use to be a 'party place' but I confirmed with the owner and my other roomate that no entertainment would be there while my daughter was staying overnight. (Things have changed since 3 years ago anyhow). I told my x this and I also sent my x the owners phone number and encouraged her to visit to check out the place if she'd like. She basically doesn't trust me and says she doesn't want to 'chance' anything happening.
She says she won't refuse my access just that I'd have to return her to sleep - if I refuse she would take action (but told me she wouldn't go into detail asto what action that was - but what her lawyer told her to do). She's also seeing a physcologist which we intitially were seeing together to help us with the seperation (which her lawyer recommened) (it lasted only 2 sessions due to finicial issues by both) She's started seeing him again for the last 2 months or more (her father's paying), and he agrees with her saying it's unsafe. (based on her explanation only and whatever else they talk about getting her view only).
So what rights do I have? Can she do this? What might her actions be? My only other option would be that I stay at my parents for my weekend overnights (which she said she'd want in writing from them) or stay at my girlfriends place (which she said she didn't know her, and didn't like the idea of my daughter staying with a stranger - but she didn't really say she'd do anything about it - as I think I caught her off guard)
I'm paying for an extra room in the new place - should I keep paying this or be scared and decline the extra room? Does she have to take this matter to court before it can be enforced? (I'm still waiting for my lawyer to file the application for joint custody)
I'm not sure what to do in this situation... or what I can do - my lawyer is very vague and I haven't been able to contact him with new information the last 2 weeks!
anyone?
Currently I'm living with a male roomate. He's a friend and my x knows him. Due to finicial issues and because my daughters crib is in my room I chose to move.
I will be moving into a town house where my daughter will have her own room and more room to play. My roomate will be moving to this townhouse as well and it's owned by another one of my friends who is also male (and my x also knows). This is causing problems with my daughters mother (x) and she's threating to refuse my overnight access when I move (next week).
Her view is that it's an unsafe environment due to 2 other males living in the house. Also, I use to live in this house before I met my x, and it use to be a 'party place' but I confirmed with the owner and my other roomate that no entertainment would be there while my daughter was staying overnight. (Things have changed since 3 years ago anyhow). I told my x this and I also sent my x the owners phone number and encouraged her to visit to check out the place if she'd like. She basically doesn't trust me and says she doesn't want to 'chance' anything happening.
She says she won't refuse my access just that I'd have to return her to sleep - if I refuse she would take action (but told me she wouldn't go into detail asto what action that was - but what her lawyer told her to do). She's also seeing a physcologist which we intitially were seeing together to help us with the seperation (which her lawyer recommened) (it lasted only 2 sessions due to finicial issues by both) She's started seeing him again for the last 2 months or more (her father's paying), and he agrees with her saying it's unsafe. (based on her explanation only and whatever else they talk about getting her view only).
So what rights do I have? Can she do this? What might her actions be? My only other option would be that I stay at my parents for my weekend overnights (which she said she'd want in writing from them) or stay at my girlfriends place (which she said she didn't know her, and didn't like the idea of my daughter staying with a stranger - but she didn't really say she'd do anything about it - as I think I caught her off guard)
I'm paying for an extra room in the new place - should I keep paying this or be scared and decline the extra room? Does she have to take this matter to court before it can be enforced? (I'm still waiting for my lawyer to file the application for joint custody)
I'm not sure what to do in this situation... or what I can do - my lawyer is very vague and I haven't been able to contact him with new information the last 2 weeks!
anyone?
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