My ex did something similar - my job involved a lot of international travel, we had agreed on a parenting schedule that would allow me to undertake this travel and also parent 50/50, then ex reneged on agreement, as a way of short-circuiting my job in order to pressure me into withdrawing the divorce action (long backstory omitted). (I actually have emails from him stating that this was his intention).
I panicked a bit, but found that when I was up front about why I had to cancel international field visits (family problems), colleagues were surprisingly supportive, and several shared their own "war stories" from the divorced-parenting battleground. I had to work double-time to make up for not being able to be on-site as much as I would otherwise have done, but in the end I was able to get everything back on track with minimal damage to my career (and my income, which supports us). Like the poster below, it was absolutely worth it. The alternatives - buckling under to the ex, or not parenting 50/50 - would have been much worse. And I really did appreciate the support I got from a few strategically placed colleagues.
I panicked a bit, but found that when I was up front about why I had to cancel international field visits (family problems), colleagues were surprisingly supportive, and several shared their own "war stories" from the divorced-parenting battleground. I had to work double-time to make up for not being able to be on-site as much as I would otherwise have done, but in the end I was able to get everything back on track with minimal damage to my career (and my income, which supports us). Like the poster below, it was absolutely worth it. The alternatives - buckling under to the ex, or not parenting 50/50 - would have been much worse. And I really did appreciate the support I got from a few strategically placed colleagues.
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