Hello Forum Members,
I've been reading some of the posts on here for the past while and am looking forward to the advice I may receive from others on this board.
Left a long marriage (22 years) about 4 months ago, the kids are both out of the home and doing well.
I have not yet retained counsel but have spoken with a highly regarded solicitor re; Family Law.
I have no concerns re: Child Support and I don't think Spousal Support is at issue either. My questions are as follows;
1.Given that I have left the home (bad environment) - and am still on title, should I be paying for half the mortgage on the mat-home? I've had to find rental accommodations and thus far am doing quite the juggling act.
2. STBX has alienated both kids from me (one more than the other),and although it is hurtful, I have let them know that I am available and have not left "them" in any way, rather I have left the marriage. Any advice on this topic?
3. I am out of town often (overseas) with Business and being regularly besieged with nasty emails from the stbx; everything from it's all MY fault, to accusations that I have abandoned the "kids" - (the ADULT kids.)
I have aimed to keep these communications to a minimum and am learning to respond in the "Bill Eddy" style.
I would appreciate any/all tips advice in moving forward. I thought things would have settled down just a little, but it has been 4 months and there's no sign of things slowing down. I see that I was naïve to think that I could just exit quietly. Trying to be fair, calm, civil but that is totally lost on individuals who fully embrace the "It's All Your Fault" mentality. It's like talking to a brick wall.
Thanks in advance,
I've been reading some of the posts on here for the past while and am looking forward to the advice I may receive from others on this board.
Left a long marriage (22 years) about 4 months ago, the kids are both out of the home and doing well.
I have not yet retained counsel but have spoken with a highly regarded solicitor re; Family Law.
I have no concerns re: Child Support and I don't think Spousal Support is at issue either. My questions are as follows;
1.Given that I have left the home (bad environment) - and am still on title, should I be paying for half the mortgage on the mat-home? I've had to find rental accommodations and thus far am doing quite the juggling act.
2. STBX has alienated both kids from me (one more than the other),and although it is hurtful, I have let them know that I am available and have not left "them" in any way, rather I have left the marriage. Any advice on this topic?
3. I am out of town often (overseas) with Business and being regularly besieged with nasty emails from the stbx; everything from it's all MY fault, to accusations that I have abandoned the "kids" - (the ADULT kids.)
I have aimed to keep these communications to a minimum and am learning to respond in the "Bill Eddy" style.
I would appreciate any/all tips advice in moving forward. I thought things would have settled down just a little, but it has been 4 months and there's no sign of things slowing down. I see that I was naïve to think that I could just exit quietly. Trying to be fair, calm, civil but that is totally lost on individuals who fully embrace the "It's All Your Fault" mentality. It's like talking to a brick wall.
Thanks in advance,
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