After working 60+ hours a week (sometimes as much as 80 or more) over the past few years to pay the bills she left me with and child support, I'm growing very very tired and exhausted.
Last fall, my work performance suffered from the stress & exhaustion - I was let go from my primary job in November... I quickly picked up some extra work but got behind in bills and even a bit behind in CS even though I kept giving her what I could. My car deteriorated and I couldn't afford repairs.
Now, I've been hired full time with another company again - but back working at the least, 65 hours a week. I'm caught up with CS once again, but am still seriously behind in bills. My car is gone and I have no transportation to get to see the kids 2 hour drive away (she moved them despite the separation agreement saying to keep them "close" to where we lived).
My ex is constantly sending me nasty emails, text messages and voice messages saying I'm a deadbeat dad. In her messages she tells me about how I obviously hate the kids and have no desire to see them. Who knows what she is actually telling them - although I'm sure it's not nice.
She enrolls them in extra activities that cost $, recently hooked them up with life insurance and RESP's and immediately dumped half the monthly expense of all that on me and makes threats to take it all to court and sue for more CS (she gets the table amount now - but 2 years ago I worked pretty much 7 days a week to try and pay some bills down - she hijacked my mail to see my pay checks and now wants back pay on that extra work I did to pay some of the initial separation debts down).
Can this all not be considered harassment considering the extra stress it's constantly putting me through? It's bad enough having to work my life away and not being able to see the kids unless she is "driving through town and can stop by for 5 minutes". I'm at a point of saying f-you and leaving the country indefinitely - especially since her financial stranglehold will be with me at least until I'm 65 (sure, some of the $ feeds the kids, etc., but the $ she gets is definitely 'abused' -- she doesn't need a $500K house, new car, big screen TV's, etc., while I rent a tiny room and eat peanut butter sandwiches for meals.).
What is a guy to do? No $ for a lawyer so please don't suggest it... and I make too much for legal aid - gross of course... I can survive and live the best I can -- but do I need to put up with her constant barrage of complaints, threats and insults?? I can't work more - she just takes more and then the next year I have to work even more - I'm maxed out with working... I really need to work less at this point as I'm completely exhausted all the time.
Last fall, my work performance suffered from the stress & exhaustion - I was let go from my primary job in November... I quickly picked up some extra work but got behind in bills and even a bit behind in CS even though I kept giving her what I could. My car deteriorated and I couldn't afford repairs.
Now, I've been hired full time with another company again - but back working at the least, 65 hours a week. I'm caught up with CS once again, but am still seriously behind in bills. My car is gone and I have no transportation to get to see the kids 2 hour drive away (she moved them despite the separation agreement saying to keep them "close" to where we lived).
My ex is constantly sending me nasty emails, text messages and voice messages saying I'm a deadbeat dad. In her messages she tells me about how I obviously hate the kids and have no desire to see them. Who knows what she is actually telling them - although I'm sure it's not nice.
She enrolls them in extra activities that cost $, recently hooked them up with life insurance and RESP's and immediately dumped half the monthly expense of all that on me and makes threats to take it all to court and sue for more CS (she gets the table amount now - but 2 years ago I worked pretty much 7 days a week to try and pay some bills down - she hijacked my mail to see my pay checks and now wants back pay on that extra work I did to pay some of the initial separation debts down).
Can this all not be considered harassment considering the extra stress it's constantly putting me through? It's bad enough having to work my life away and not being able to see the kids unless she is "driving through town and can stop by for 5 minutes". I'm at a point of saying f-you and leaving the country indefinitely - especially since her financial stranglehold will be with me at least until I'm 65 (sure, some of the $ feeds the kids, etc., but the $ she gets is definitely 'abused' -- she doesn't need a $500K house, new car, big screen TV's, etc., while I rent a tiny room and eat peanut butter sandwiches for meals.).
What is a guy to do? No $ for a lawyer so please don't suggest it... and I make too much for legal aid - gross of course... I can survive and live the best I can -- but do I need to put up with her constant barrage of complaints, threats and insults?? I can't work more - she just takes more and then the next year I have to work even more - I'm maxed out with working... I really need to work less at this point as I'm completely exhausted all the time.
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